Why “guys and girls can’t just be friends” is the Ultimate Myth

You’ve heard it said it million times, “guys and girls cant JUST be friends.” Either feelings or attraction always get in the way. Sometimes one falls for the other and the feelings aren’t reciprocated. Sometimes one is just really attracted to the other physically. Sometimes one has a jealous significant other. And in most of these scenarios, the friendship is ruined or severely damaged. Further supporting the case that men and women cannot have purely platonic relationships.

And I do not think this is the case.

Sure, I understand how this misconception can be made. I just gave you all the evidence to support it. And in some cases, it can become the case. But NOT ALWAYS.

Believe it or not, it is ACTUALLY possible to have a 100% pure friendship with someone of the opposite sex. If you both stay within those limits. It is a little different than a relationship with someone of the same-sex. There are certain boundaries that must be followed. Especially if one or both of you are in actual relationships with other people. You can’t just be 100% comfortable and carefree. You have to respect your boyfriend/girlfriend and that relationship first. However, you should not let a jealous bf or gf control who you get to be friends with.

I, personally, have been in a relationship with someone that was super controlling and jealous and where I ultimately ended up sacrificing some amazing friendships with some of my best guy friends. I regret having to had give those up so much. And once my ex and I broke up, I swore to myself that I’d never let that happen again.

So now, fast-forward, I’m in a beautiful healthy relationship with a guy who is the complete opposite as far as jealousy goes. We both trust each other completely. We both have strong and casual friendships with other guys and girls. We’ve been dating for almost a year and have never had any issues with the other having a friend of the opposite sex. He even went to one of his friend’s that’s a girls semi-formal with her after her and her boyfriend had just broken up so that she could still go. Everyone asked him if we had broken up and were shocked to find out that we hadn’t and that I was just okay with him going with another girl. I find this so ridiculous. Why do people think this way?


Anna Cook

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