Dear Outsiders, I’m Sorry Joining a Sorority Was Never Your Cup of Tea

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While entering college, I never knew I was going to end up joining a sorority. The thought never crossed my mind and honestly I didn’t even know Brockport had sororities and fraternities. I was always the “athletic girl” or the “gym rat.” However, I never knew that I would have a whole other world introduced to me besides the “college world.” My friends and family from home were even surprised I was going to become a “sorority girl” because never had I ever even brought up the topic. I think I was so caught up in going away and meeting so many people …and I did from joining Phi Sigma Sigma. I met my lifelong best friends and my future bridesmaids.

I hate when people say “sororities are stupid” “you pay for your friends” “what do you even do besides drink and party?” “Do you have friends outside out the sorority?” “don’t you have to likeeeee buy Tory Burch boots and Jack Rodgers Flip Flops oh and that new Kate Spade bag that just came out?”….like what? Where do you people get these scenarios from? Movies? Little do you all know what you see in the movies about sororities is far from the reality of what our organizations are about.

Each person in our organization brings something to the table. You become best friends with people you never EVER think you would become friends with just because maybe she has a different style than you, or maybe doesn’t like to drink three nights a week, or likes country instead of the Dave Matthews band, or is a cat lady instead of a dog lover. Honestly, who gives a shit because what we all have in common is we love our organization, what we get out of it, what we stand for, and how we give back to our campus and our community because we strive to be the best and show what we stand for besides a red solo up.

Did you know a majority of college campus campus that have Greek Life maintain the highest GPA on their college campuses? Or that country star Carrie Underwood, the lovely Tory Burch, Nashville and Friday Night Lights Star Connie Britton, and One Tree Hill actress Sophia Bush were all in sororities? More than half of girls in the United States have something in common with a celebrity and similar values other than their talent. Also little do you all know, if it wasn’t for some of this celebrities or as we like to call them Alumni, our chapters wouldn’t continue letter alone exist. It’s definitely something to think about.

While making our resumes it’s actually hard to narrow it down to one full page since the amount of positions you hold during your time as an active can be 5 or more. Whether you’re president, vice, member at large, public relations chair, recruitment chair, scholarship chair, I could go on and on, but we gain a whole lot our of these positions that are going to benefit us for life. The amount of network experience we have by the end of one semester is actually outrageous.

Also, did I mention there’s always someone to hang out with? There are usually 50+ sisters to always turn too if you want to go to the gym, grab a slice or pizza, go to the library with, or even binge watch Netflix, we have it all.

I’m not saying not joining a sorority is the end of the world. I am just trying to make the point that if I haven’t joined such a wonderful organization I wouldn’t know where I would be without these wonderful women and all the skills I have learned so far. If I didn’t go outside of my comfort zone and test the waters a little bit who know what I would be doing.

So next time you want to label a sorority as a bunch of stupid blonde girls, a cult, girls who haze, or a bunch of drunk girls, think about it, maybe if you sparked an interest or gave a sorority a chance, you could have been happier than you are now. So who knows your best friend, maid of honor, spirit animal, or hey that frat boy that you could of had that potential relationship with could be just walking around still because I forgot “sororities are stupid.”

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If The Cast Of Pretty Little Liars Were In Sororities

We all know and love the ladies of our most beloved drama series on television. We’ve watched and followed behind the lives of these fictional characters, but we’ve always wondered, what letters would these girls represent if they were in sororities?

 

Hanna, played by Ashley Benson, would be a Kappa Delta. She is the sweetest of the bunch, and she is generous and kind. She is the boldest and the most outspoken of the girls. Even though Hanna is one of the most popular and prettiest girls at school, she is still caring, witty, and thoughtful. You can’t help but love her. As a Kappa Delta, she promotes sisterly love, friendship, and the good fellowship every sorority needs to function.

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Aria, played by Lucy Hale, would be an Alpha Delta Pi. She’s the quirkiest one of the group, with a very funky and creative personality. She’s got it all put together and she knows what she wants. She cares about others and won’t hesitate to put them first. She’s very relaxed, loving, and has an old soul. Like any ADPi woman, she is truthful, sincere, and she believes in the motto “We Live For Each Other”. She’s part of what makes the show irresistible to it’s viewers.

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Real Feelings You Go Through During Greek Week Explained Through GIFS

Homecoming Week, Greek Week, or whatever your university calls it- we all know the time, sweat, and tears that go into the preparation of any competition against any other greek groups. Of course, it’s all fun and exciting, but what the audience doesn’t see is the team-building and exhausting practices that happen behind the scenes of the perfectly executed performances and winning groups.

10. Knowing you have practice today

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It always seems to be at an awkward time when all you want to do is nap

9. Practice

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I don’t know if it’s just me, but I never know what’s going on at practice

8. When sisters are arguing

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Seriously can”t we??

7. When you finally get the routine down

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Weeks of practice and you FINALLY feel like you’re coming close to kind of getting it- kind of

6. Days before the competition and you’re still not prepared

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Practicing in the hallways, on your way to class, anywhere and everywhere because you’re not about to be the one person that gets up there and doesn’t know what they’re doing

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10 Ideas For Sisterhood Bonding During The Holidays

It’s important for every sorority to master the art of bonding. Spending time with your sisters is what allows you to get to know the many faces in your sorority. Here’s a few ideas for bonding during our favorite time of the year, the holidays:

 

tumblr_m9mqx1PWoe1qlrlr7o1_50010. Holiday decorating.

Whether it’s Halloween, Thanksgiving, or Christmas, grab a bunch of sisters and start getting crafty. You will be amazed on how great the outcome will be.

 

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Make it a thing to throw an annual costume party during Halloween and dress to your heart’s desire with your sisters. You can even plan it with other Greeks and make a huge contest out of it.

 

pumpkin-carving-with-miley-cyrus-o8. Pumpkin carving.

Whenever fall is among us, we love pumpkin everything! We most definitely love going to pumpkin patches with our sisters and being kids for a change. After grabbing some pumpkins, get a large group together and decorate and carve them.

 

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It’s already common for sororities to take shitloads of pictures. Well, we also love to dress up nice, especially for the fall and winter season. Why not get a photo shoot together and take a few cute candid and off guard shots? Make all the memories you can.

 

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This time don’t plan ahead to go somewhere. Randomly pick a place to go to with your sisters. Traveling is fun, but it’s even better when you have all your best friends with you.

 

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People you know in Greek Life as told by John Tucker Must Die

I think we’ve all seen John Tucker Must Die more than our fair share of times. I mean really, what’s not to like? There’s Jesse Metcalfe shirtless, Penn Badgley in his younger years, and the best of all, acts of revenge that you’ve always wanted to pull. That said, a lot of faces in this movie seem oddly familiar, and I’m here to tell you why.

10. The shy PNM

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Our first familiar face is the potential new member who is just a little bit shy. She seems excited about the sisterhood and wants to get out of her comfort zone, but it’s going to take a little time. Don’t underestimate this sister though because she may surprise you.

9. The straight out of college house mom

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Your house mom is hotter than some of your sisters and looks like she fits right in. She’s not like a regular house mom; she’s a cool house mom and looks the part.

8. The “nice guy” who won’t stop texting you

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We’ve all known that guy. Maybe you’re friends with him at first and have a great time dancing and just hanging out. Then something changes. This “nice guy” starts sending you flirty texts that seem just a little creepy. When you call him out on it he says you were leading him on even though you thought you were just friends and then continues to text you. This guy is one to watch out for.

7. The sister who is always dealing with the standards committee

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She’s always dancing out tables, walking into chapter late, and looking for a good time no matter how crazy. Therefore, standards is basically always calling her in.

6. The super involved sister

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She’s president of the sorority, vice-president of the debate team, an active member of more than one honors society, and even a reporter for your college’s television channel. If there’s a club this girl can join, she’s interested.  You don’t know how she does it all.next

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An Open Letter To My Younger Siblings

Dear little ones,

You will never realize how blessed you are until you’re given younger brothers and sisters. And when you’re the oldest of seven, you face many challenges being the first-born. I write you this so that you understand how significant you are to me. You’re my motivation, my first loves, my miniature soldiers- you’re my strength when I am weak.

There’s a lot that I never said to you growing up and I feel there are important things you should know..

First, I’m sorry if I didn’t give you enough attention. I know that you’re young, so you can never seek enough of it. I never meant to make it seem like I didn’t care. But understand that if I could be with you every second of the day, I would. Since I’m older, I’ll transition into adulthood before you. I have so many  responsibilities that you are still unaware of. So, know that it isn’t easy for me to grow up first and I’m still your big sister regardless of how much you see me.

Next, I’m sorry if I stole a lot of attention. As the oldest, I do get a lot of praise or recognition and it sometimes gets on your nerves. You’re the babies of the family and you still have growing to do before you embark on the real world. I’m the first to flock the nest which means mom stays on my case, making sure I have my life in order. But, pretty soon it’ll be your turn. Please don’t rush time, because you will value it as you grow older.

Forgive me if I set too high of expectations for you. As your older sister, I’m the one setting the bar for you as you become of age. You look up to me and will always picture me as your role model. For this, I have a lot of pressure to be the best and succeed at life so you know that it’s the same thing you should do. Don’t ever feel like you have to accomplish more than me, win more games, make more friends, or even make a better living. I want you to be the best you can be and I promise to follow suit.

Finally, as your older sister, it’s my job to be humble and to show you the ways of the world before you begin transitioning as well. It isn’t easy being the older sibling, but I know it isn’t easy being the younger sibling, too. You may not understand everything in life yet.

You still have so much ahead of you. But always remember, your big sister loves you and never think otherwise.

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10 Things That Go Through Your Head When You’re Late to Chapter

Its happened to everyone at least once. All of a sudden the time slips away and you are late for chapter. Your mind is racing with these ten things.

10) Crap, is it really already that time? I’m gunna be late again…

9) Maybe my part of the line is still outside and I can sneak in.

8) Should I knock or just try to sneak in unnoticed?

7) The door is locked, why is the door locked, now I have to knock.

6) I hope there isn’t a presentation that I’m interrupting.

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10 Reasons “Twittles” Are Better

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I swore on my life I would never take twittles (aka two littles). I thought I could never handle that much responsibility. Somehow though, I found that two girls would instantly become two of my best friends and eventually my twittles. I could not imagine my life without them as my littles now. So here are ten reasons why twittles are better than just one little.

10. They gang up on you sometimes: I’m sure you’re wondering how this makes twittles better? While some girls may see this as a disadvantage, I see it as an advantage to see what they are capable of. Plus, I know if I need help getting back at someone they’ll be there for me.
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9. Together they show each of your sides: Many people say that their little is their mini me. Well, I have two littles and they are both mini me. One shows my outgoing side and the other shows my calmer side. They are both me in so many ways that I know it was meant to be.

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Why Sisters Make the Best Roommates

Throughout my college years, I lived with six different sisters, all of various ages. The first one and I rushed together, actually, and wound up in the same sorority, a stroke of luck I am still thankful for.

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Three of the six are still some of the best friends I have ever had, two I lived with for three years in a row, four of them were descending branches in my family tree. We were from all over the state and all walks of life, bound together by our love for our letters and each other; when you’re in a Greek system, it truly doesn’t matter where you’re from. It matters who you are. This was the reason that, even though most of them were younger than me or in different pledge classes, we still always maintained a close bond.

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My Sister Support System

When you go through rush, all you tend to hear about is how close everyone is in the house and how the sorority will be your home away from home; not to mention that you will find your future bridesmaids and truly the best of all the best friends you can hand pick yourself. Now when you are just a baby freshman, you just think that they are all saying these things just to get you to come to their sorority. There is no way that a house full of girls can be this close in real life! Well NEWS FLASH……PSA everyone; all that has been said is true. I’ve never really been a girl’s girl because I’ve always hung out with guys since they are less catty than girls. When I decided to join, I also threw my hands up and told myself whatever happens here happens.

I can testify that Alpha Phi has been my home away from home. It has also supplied me with the strongest support system I have ever had next to my immediate family. I remember my sophomore year, I was just sitting by myself in the living room when one of my sisters came in and sat down next to me. “What’s going on with you?” was the first thing that came out of her mouth. I didn’t get a hey or any salutation along those lines what so ever. I went through recruitment with this sister and we have been inseparable ever since so I had no hesitations to telling her what was going on. At that time I was talking to a guy, the typical football player that everyone knew about because he was that guy. The thing about this guy was that he treated me like I was one of the homies despite what he said, like everybody says, actions speak louder than words. At this time, his actions were speaking quite loudly to me and I didn’t know what to do. I could follow my heart and stay with it and hope that things really change because I am not a quitter; I like to finish what I start. The other option was to follow my brain and end things before I really got invested. Now that my sister knew all of the back story to my depression, she left me with some words of wisdom that I just recently put into effect. She said that I was a beautiful young woman that deserves nothing but the best and with my beauty, I also have an amazing brain to be paired with it. In the long run, I know what is the right decision. Also, she mentioned that she was not going to tell me what the right answer to my problem was because  she wasn’t me. Lastly, she left this little bit with me to ponder over. God has a plan for me and it will go as planned because he has nothing but the best laid out for me. He would never give me something that I couldn’t handle because I was stronger than I thought. With tears in my eyes, I for once did not have an opinion or witty come back. All I could do was thank her and embrace her. It is times like these that I’m grateful to have these young women around me to relate to my experience and to walk with me hand in hand.next

 

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Staying Close With Your College Friends

Crashed on the floor when I moved in.
This little bungalow with some strange new friends
Stayed up too late and I’m too thin
We promise each other it’s til the end

Vanessa Carlton’s White Houses rings in my ears as I reminisce on the euphoric whirlwind that was my college experience. Late nights and long-term jokes, hard moments and learning to become adults together; as I type in my childhood bedroom, it’s almost too much to recall.

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            I am exactly the opposite of small town; in fact, I went to the largest high school in the state with a town population to match. I am eccentric, outgoing, and I make friends easily, without having to divulge too much information about myself because I tend to stay relatively guarded. It is easy to blend in when there are thousands around you; it is easy to standout when you’re used to competing in a crowd.

When I went to college, I had no intention of leaving part of myself in a new city. I loved my hometown (and still do, in fact); I spent the first 18 years of my life in the same bedroom of the same house, on the same street with the same friends. No changes meant no heartaches, and I was absolutely okay with that.

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A Thank You to my Pledge Sisters

To my crazy, beautiful, strong pledge sisters,

Three years ago, I started this new journey unaware of what I was getting myself into.  Over the course of one week, I went through recruitment and entered into a group of women who I barely knew.  I walked into the room on bid day to screaming and hugging and lots of pictures all with my new sisters.  I am naturally shy and this situation was far out of my comfort zone. But I managed to recognize a few faces who I would later find out were you all, my pledge sisters.

I remember the first day we had a meeting and I walked into a room full of familiar faces but names that I didn’t yet know.  My heart was pounding as our list of membership requirements were explained to us.  My mind was spinning as I thought about whether this was the right decision but as I looked at all of your faces, you seemed just as nervous as I was.  And for some reason, I felt a sense of comfort in that.

Entering any sorority is a life changing adventure that I wasn’t sure I was prepared for.  I had always been an extremely timid child but I joined to try to break out of my shell, and thanks to you all I did.next

 

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