There is glitter in the air, the faint sounds of chanting and crafts filling the room, this can only mean one thing, recruitment season is coming soon. Whether you love recruitment or hate it, this is what every sorority girl lives for. This is the happiest and most stressful time of year but in the end we all have the joy of receiving brand new girls. While this time is clearly stressful for everyone, there is one group of people who rarely get thanked for making our lives as easy as possible. We know them well, some may even be your sisters, but at this time, they are Greek Life’s Recruitment Counselors.
This past semester, I had the honor of serving as a Rho Chi for my Panhellenic community. While this was one of the most rewarding experiences I have had within Greek life, it was also the most severe case of FOMO that I have ever had. For those of you who don’t know, Rho Chi’s are “disaffiliated” from their chapters for between one and three months and during that time, they are not allowed to be seen in public with their sisters or attend sorority functions. This would be difficult for anyone but Rho Chi’s have a special love for Greek Life which tends to make it especially hard.
As any college student can tell you, they want to be part of everything. In a perfect world, you would never miss a party, a dinner or any event and you would never have silly things like sleep and homework to hold you back. But the life of a Rho Chi is all about watching from a distance. You are at every Greek wide event and spend your time talking about sisterhood but all of it has to take place across the room from all of your sisters who have made your sorority experience so wonderful to talk about. So you stand there and encourage wonderful new college women to join Greek life and long for the day that you can re-join along with them.
The experience of being a Rho Chi provided me with many things. It taught me a lot about recruitment and communication, it furthered my love for Greek life and my campus and it gave me the ability to learn a lot about myself. However, it also showed me how lost I am without my chapter. I realized that I missed sitting with them for meals, I missed going out with them, and I missed the small encounters with sisters that can sometimes just make my day. My only saving grace during these times were the other wonderful Rho Chi’s including a few from my own chapter. They became my home away from my sorority home.
While this was a relatively consistent factor of this experience, it began its peak during the actual week of recruitment. The most difficult parts are sending girls to your chapter’s room and not smiling and cheering on your sisters, controlling the desire to recruit the girls you meet for your own chapter, and being on the outside of the always emotional preference ceremony. All of these things together pull hard at your heart strings and cause you to love your chapter more than ever.
While all of this FOMO is a short time hardship, it is all worth it in the end. Helping younger girls to find their home, renewing the love you have for your chapter and running into the arms of all of your sisters at the end of the week makes this an experience that you will never forget. If you are lucky enough to be a Recruitment Counselor for your campus’ Greek life, remember that although you may experience severe FOMO, you will be able to change lives and improve your community. So stay positive and make the most of this amazing experience that few people get to have.