Stop what you’re doing! Stop tweeting, texting, taking pointless selfies, swiping left and right on Tinder and everything else and continue reading! Ladies, you may not want to hear about this because you already know and don’t want to talk about it. Every sorority girl knows those few girls in their chapter that no one really likes and you hear everyone talking about them. It’s called GOSSIP! We all do it, we all contribute to it, and we all listen to it. But why?? Why do we find pleasure in tearing others down to make ourselves feel better?? We are sisters, we should be loving to each other, motivate each other, and have each others back. We can make excuses and say it’s just what girls do. So you’re saying in order to be a girl you MUST gossip? That just doesn’t sound right, does it? As women we should want to be role models for younger girls, when they hear us bashing others what does that make us? It sure wouldn’t make me want to look up to you if you were bashing your own sisters. What if a PNM was in class with you and you were talking to your friend about one of your sisters and you had a button on your backpack of you had your stitch on, well now you have swayed that PNM not to rush your sorority. Here are some ways we can improve our sisterly love:
1. Keep your comments to yourself..
You’re at your weekly formal chapter meeting and one of your sisters comes in with wet hair and no make up.. you’re thinking, wow what a slob, she shouldn’t be allowed to be let in like that. The first thing you want to do is turn to your closest sister and whisper in her ear ” what is she wearing? Is her hair wet!!? She looks so awful without make up on! I can’t stand her!” Although you would love to talk trash about that sister because of the appearance she is setting for your sorority, you should really consider keeping your mouth shut. If you don’t let your comments spew out of your mouth like throw up its one less conversation starter that will tear someone else down.
2. Don’t spread it..
So you always eat with your best friends, some being your sisters and others being in other sororities. One of your sisters tells the table about someone in your sorority who slept with some frat daddy after a party one night and ended up passed out in the front lawn. Number one, there is no telling who started this rumor, number two it may not even be true. You have two options at this point, continue talking about it and telling others or you can just stop it there. Even if it did happen it is none of your business and it’s not your story to tell. The best option is to stop it there, tell your sister that you don’t think you should be taking about your sister like that. Don’t go telling everyone and their mother about your sister hooking up with some fraternity guy and end up passed out in the front yard. Why would you want to give your sorority that image?
3. Don’t contribute ..
STOP talking crap about your sisters!! The bonds you share with your sisters last a lifetime! Why would you ruin that by spreading pointless and untrue rumors about your sisters? If you don’t want to be talked about in a bad way then why would you do it to others?? HELLO, did anyone teach you the golden rule?? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It’s as simple as that girls.
We as women need to put a stop to this thing called gossip! We should be building each other up, not tearing each other down. Sisters need to stop being so catty and realize that these are the sisters we will have until we die. Yes ending gossip all together seems like a huge undertaking but if each girl in your chapter strives to not say negative things about each other then we can slowly change the perception that to be a girl you have to gossip. We are better than that!