17 Wishes For My Little

Little,

You mean the world to me, and I hope you know that. I want nothing less than the world for you, and I know that you’re strong enough, smart enough, and driven enough to take it.

17. I wish that your heart never hurts.


However, I know that it will. I will be by your side when it does, though, and you will survive it.

16. I wish that you will give back to our sisterhood as much as it has given you.


Take on leadership roles, attend every event you can, spend time just sitting with your sisters. Every opportunity to create special bonds with the girls in our chapter should be taken.

15. I wish that you will sometimes be irresponsible.


Go out on a Wednesday. Stay up till 3 AM before an early morning class for no good reason. Buy that shirt that’s a tiny bit out of your price range. Don’t do this every day, obviously, but occasionally it’s fun to break the rules.

14. I wish that you will wear your letters with pride.


One of my favorite quotes about Greek Life is this: “When your letters are in front of you, you know your sisters are behind you.” I hope you never forget this.

next

Read More...

Dear Little: You’re MY Role model

Dearest Little,

My sweet sweet Lil Baby Em! What can I say to you right now? Well I can say that i love you more than words could probably describe. I know that I have to take a few calming deep breaths with you but most of the time I’m asking myself how did such an amazing being end up in my life?I know they say that the big sisters in these kind of relationships are suppose to be the mentor, the leader, and the role model. Well that is all gravy, yet I feel that one role has been switched. You have became my role model.

Screenshot_2016-02-03-12-01-32-1

Before I met you I’ve never thought I could look up to someone younger. It just seemed like a contradiction to me. If I am the older one than I assumed that I had the responsibility of being the role model for whoever was younger than me especially when it came to my little. After I found out that I’d be your big you asked me to go dancing Wednesday night and I swore to myself that I would never ever do that as long as I was in college yet I went because it made you happy. All my friends that were there and that were apart of Greek life said that you were a smaller version of me and the tickled me a little bit. After that night I saw you in another light. I began to see all the potential that you had to offer and how you had such excitement when you had a task to complete. That excitement was so contagious that it made me want to be a happy person even when I had to do the most painful thing. You are such a hard worker it’s crazy how you maintain your sanity. I see you running from cheer, to class, to chapter events, back to cheer, work, and family things. Yet no matter how much stuff you have put on your plate you succeed with flying colors. This makes me think, “If my little can do it then there is no excuse for me to fail!” You motivate me in the smallest ways and it’s so crazy to me. I’ve never been a very affectionate person even towards my family, but again you set the mold on how to act towards everyone especially family. I have never seen anyone who is so locked into their family, especially their younger siblings. You show your family, blood and Greek, unconditional love and sometimes that can be the hardest thing ever and it has never been a thought in your mind that whatever they needed you would not turn them away.

IMG_20151008_220649

I think it’s a little funny that we are kind of opposites if you think about it. I am all about rules, deadlines, to-do lists, etc and you live a carefree life and open the door to fun when it comes knocking and I wish that I could loosen up like you whenever a chance to laugh and cut lose with friends comes along. I have noticed that you have gotten me to go with you to a lot more functions in this past year more than I would have gone to on my own in the past three years. Your light attitude has shown me that life is short, we’re in college, and to not regret anything. it has been a process but I’m getting better at life with you by my side.

You have shown me how to love, to smile, to laugh, to dance with strangers, and to live my life. Because if you think about it Drake was right, you do only live once and my body won’t be able to keep up with my young spirit at the tender age of 80. So little, thank you for pushing me out of my comfort zone and making me want to be like you, to be a better person for myself and the people in my life.

Always and Forever,

Your Big.

Read More...

What it really means to be a big

Being a big means so much more than just crafting and photo-ops and many sisters often forget this. I’m here to set the record straight on what it really means to be a big. To all the future bigs out there, in the most basic terms a big is defined as, “A mentor for a new member within a sorority”. The problem is we hear about far too many problem bigs out there because of a lack of understanding of this definition and what it really means for both the big and little involved.

You should not become a big if you aren’t actively involved in and dedicated to your sorority. You also should not become a big if you aren’t willing to be flexible. Being a big many times comes down to being flexible from the matching process to family traditions. Say you don’t get your first choice little and you end up with a girl you never even remember meeting during recruitment. Or maybe your little is a non-traditional student that is older than you. No matter what the matching process throws at you as far as a new little is concerned keep in mind that you may not be instantly best friends with them. Think about it though. How many of the friends in your life already did you instantly click with? Those relationships took time to grow so the same principles will apply to your big/little relationship. Go on “dates” with your little like you would with friends such as taking her to see a movie, rock-climbing at the campus gym, or grabbing coffee at a local cafe. Ask questions, listen, and really get to know your little so that you can help better integrate her into your family line. Share what you learn with your big and grand big so they can get to know your little too.

The position of big within a family is one that is very important. It’s an honor to be able to have a girl within the sorority you love that looks up to you so absolutely and that will carry on your family line one day. You are there to listen, share advice, go on adventures, and ultimately always be there for her. You are her mentor and that means you should be striving to do everything you can to better your sorority so she will want to do the same. Run for an executive position, apply to be a part of the order of omega, be an active participant in philanthropy events. Whatever you choose to get involved in make sure you are setting a good example and avoiding meetings with standards as much as you can.

Being a big relies a lot on your time management and juggling skills as well. Between sorority events, work meetings, and lecture classes you lead a hectic life but your little must always be on your mind. This leads us to the quandary of taking twins or a second little. It may seem like fun initially having a larger family and growing your line however there are many things you should consider. If you choose to take twins or a second little at a different time you must consider the monetary costs, always avoid favoritism, and know how to divide your time. You must treat your littles as both individuals and as a part of your family unit.

Being thoughtful is important to being a good big as well. This doesn’t always mean gifting your little a sweater. It may mean bringing her cookies you made, helping her study her biology flashcards, or comforting her when she’s feeling down. Remembering what is going on in your little’s life is crucial to being able to assist her with these things so write everything down from her birthday to her favorite snacks to her class schedule. Learning more about your little will help you down the line when times get tough. Your little may get sent to standards, have a disagreement with your house mom, or have a fight with a sister over an election that didn’t go her way. When these things happen you need to be there to defend your little’s character and share every nice thing you know about her. Instead of turning against her you need to stick up for her and be her ally. That said, if your little is in the wrong and continues to make bad decisions, you need to step up as her mentor and big to set her straight. If you do your job right she will thank you when your GPA improves, she gets that great exec position, or finds her perfect guy. It may not be easy to confront her about these things but no one said it would be so don’t take the responsibility lightly.

As your little’s mentor and guide to Greek life you must also not get in her way. Teach her Greek terms, tell her which fraternity brothers to avoid, and all about her grand big but avoid giving her advice that is selfish in nature. Don’t tell her that she shouldn’t run for a certain position just because you want to or be too nosy when she is choosing a little one day. Give her room to breathe and make her own decisions while being ready to assist her when she really needs you. Always include her in family traditions and teach her all about the meaning behind them. This could be anything from nicknames you’ve given each other to crafts you make for future additions to the family that are unique to your line. Always make your little feel special and included no matter what else is going on in your life or your family line.

To all the current and future bigs out there:

Good luck! 

Read More...

Why Getting Your Little Is The Best Christmas Present Around

Getting your little is a very special occasion. There is a lot of build-up involved with all the crafting, drinking, theme choosing, activity planning, and pairing. You may even be wrapping yourself up in Christmas wrapping paper to surprise your little with your presence upon your reveal. There are numerous reasons why getting your little is just like sorority Christmas for all the future bigs out there waiting.

I’m here to name just a few:

10. They’ll be in your life forever. 

four

Because it’s not just four years… it’s for life. You’ll love them forever and like them for always of course. Whether she transfers, loses sight of her purpose, or makes some bad decisions along the way, you’ll be there for her.

9. She will always give you the best advice. 

big lil 4

You might be her mentor, but she can teach you a thing or two as well. You most likely will be very close in age, so you will share similar experiences but have different takes. She may be good at knitting whereas you may be a pro at random football facts and history. Sharing with each other will only help the both of you become better people and sisters. The big-little relationship is all about this growth as sisters, students, community members, and individuals!

8. She will be there for you through thick and thin. 

gif

Whether you break up with your boyfriend, fail your midterm, break your leg, or have a big fight with your girlfriend, your little will be there for you because you would do the same for her. Just like your biological family, you would drop anything to help your sorority family.

7. You’ll get to share them with the rest of your sorority family! 

family 2

Your big, grandbig, and great grandbig will be just as excited as you to meet the new addition to your family! They will always be there to teach you how to be the best big you can be to the perfect little.

6. She will always compliment you when you really need it. swim

Sometimes you just need to hear that you look great in that swimsuit or that your little black dress does not make you look fat. Whether you’re feeling down or have gained a little winter weight from all those holiday cookies, she always thinks you look absolutely fantastic.

next

Read More...

Crafts to Make Over Christmas Break for Your Future Little

If you’re like me you can’t wait to get a little, and you cannot wait to spoil her! Crafting is something you’re very excited for, and your Pinterest board is full of ideas. I gathered up some of my favorite ideas to make a list, because what better time to craft and relax than christmas break?

10. Glitter Letters

9. A Custom Frame

8. A Canvas with your Greek letters Intertwined into a unique Saying

7. Something with a Lilly Pattern

6. Something with the words Big and Little

next

Read More...

10 Ways to Bond With Your Little(s)

Getting to know your new family additions is an important part of being a great big! You’re not only a mentor but also a friend and a person they will come to trust. To gain that trust and earn that love you’ve got to do some bonding. Chapter meetings and sisterhood events are great opportunities, but there are many other things you can do.

10. Have a wine night. 

wine

Wine is the ultimate truth serum. The more you sip throughout the night the more you’ll really get to know each other. That said,  if wine isn’t your thing maybe try having a coffee meet up or making cookies instead!

9. Study together in the library or at the house. 

study 2

Whether you have midterms or finals coming up, the time is near for some intense studying. With that comes reading, scanning Powerpoints, going to tutoring, and basically living at the library. What better way to bond with your little(s) then by being by their side in this rough time? You’ve been through it before and know what to expect. You also know where the closest coffee shop is to the library so memorize your little(s)’ orders and get to studying! Maybe you’ll be able to teach each other a thing or two. Or just bounce ideas off each other.

8. Attend sorority events and functions together. 

function

Whether you’re really into philanthropy, want to check out a party together, or you’re going on the sisterhood retreat on the beach, these are all great ways to get to know your new addition(s). Play a game of twister, watch some ridiculous comedies on Netflix or put all in to raise money for a cause. Whatever you both love can bring you even closer together.

7. Go to a game together! 

sorority r

Whether you text each other the whole time, watch every minute, take selfies, or do some heavy tailgating, going to a game together is simply a rite of passage. It can be football, gymnastics, volleyball, rugby, or lacrosse. Just have a great time cheering the away!

6. Watch your favorite shows together. 

life

Whether you’re both hopeless romantics who love The Bachelor, horror lovers obsessed with Scream Queens, or want to live in the fantasy world of Once Upon a Time, there is a show you can share together. If you’re really committed to your little(s), challenge yourself to start watching a new show with them or binge watch something you maybe missed on Netflix.

next

Read More...

10 Reasons “Twittles” Are Better

Screen Shot 2015-11-01 at 7.31.58 PM

I swore on my life I would never take twittles (aka two littles). I thought I could never handle that much responsibility. Somehow though, I found that two girls would instantly become two of my best friends and eventually my twittles. I could not imagine my life without them as my littles now. So here are ten reasons why twittles are better than just one little.

10. They gang up on you sometimes: I’m sure you’re wondering how this makes twittles better? While some girls may see this as a disadvantage, I see it as an advantage to see what they are capable of. Plus, I know if I need help getting back at someone they’ll be there for me.
cn2Ndh

9. Together they show each of your sides: Many people say that their little is their mini me. Well, I have two littles and they are both mini me. One shows my outgoing side and the other shows my calmer side. They are both me in so many ways that I know it was meant to be.

anigif_enhanced-512-1406662729-1

up-next-page

Read More...

Why Sisters Make the Best Roommates

Throughout my college years, I lived with six different sisters, all of various ages. The first one and I rushed together, actually, and wound up in the same sorority, a stroke of luck I am still thankful for.

we're sisters

 

Three of the six are still some of the best friends I have ever had, two I lived with for three years in a row, four of them were descending branches in my family tree. We were from all over the state and all walks of life, bound together by our love for our letters and each other; when you’re in a Greek system, it truly doesn’t matter where you’re from. It matters who you are. This was the reason that, even though most of them were younger than me or in different pledge classes, we still always maintained a close bond.

bestie

next

 

 

 

 

Read More...

5 Ways to Prepare for a Little

Getting a Little in a sorority is a big deal. It’s scary and exciting all at the same time, and there’s nothing you can do about it. Once you get a Little, it’s like having a kid… (Kind of but not really). BOOM, you now have someone who is yours and you have a special bond between the two of you. There truly is no way to properly, and fully, prepare for a Little, but some of these things might help you at least get an idea.

 

5. Brush up on your sorority knowledge.

This means dates, founders, fun facts, chapter rules, etc. They’re new to this whole sorority thing and it is part of your responsibility as a Big to make sure they are representing the sorority in a positive way in every way possible.

 tumblr_m1qcw2btIX1r36r0wo1_500

next

 

Read More...

The Beauty Behind Watching Your Friends

I have a little sister who is a model in a big city; she makes appearances in fashion photo spreads, on runways, and occasionally even appears on live television. She is the person who initially sparked this train of thought because, while everyone is constantly remarking on how striking she is, the real beauty lies within moments of her personality shining through. Kissing armfuls of baby kittens, laughing in front of a birthday cake, reading to me while I attempt to clean my room at 2 AM; these are my favorite moments of her, the ones that capture her essence in my mind- certainly not a posed image on a catwalk.

Though in her experience, if you were to ask what she gets remarked on the most, she would say her looks. Everyone is always telling her how beautiful she is, but no one is reminding her how funny, how intelligent, how captivating she can be. I cannot fathom how physical beauty is regarded as the highest compliment you can give a person; superior to being compassionate, more vital than being enchanting. Today’s set standard for compliments is chilling, to say the least.

Yang

I began considering others I am close to in my life and what they regard as their most valued attributes, versus what I envision when I think of them.

            What is the first thing you would tell a person about yourself?

What is the first thing a friend would tell a stranger about you?

It is essential that we ask ourselves these questions so we may understand the image we give to the world and, even more importantly, the one we portray in our own minds.

Dean

next

 

Read More...

8 Reasons Why You Can’t Wait To Be A Big

8. You automatically get a new best friend

I mean, assuming you both get along really well, this is your way of adding a new best friend to your list. Give it time though, don’t assume that if you guys aren’t super close in the beginning that it’s because she doesn’t like you, you don’t get along, etc. I know it took me awhile to adjust to the “Big/Little” situation, so I may or may not have acted like a brat at some point in the beginning of our relationship, (sorry Big Diamond!), but now she and I are closer than ever!

giphyNYIG8WVN

7. You’ll become a better role model

I think this is something that not a lot of people will listen to or even really notice, because sometimes it is just a slight change. Once you get a Little, things will slightly change. Suddenly you have this other person to look out for and be around for. In the back of your head, you’ll remember that there is someone now watching your every move. It’s a weird thing to think about I’m sure, but once you get into a habit of things, it becomes normal, and once again unnoticed.

giphyVP4JCZ5Z

next

Read More...

A letter to my Big

Dear Big,

I’m going to try so hard not to make this sound like a love letter. But let’s face it, you’re my big and there’s a whole lot of love in this sisterhood! Normally, I am not great with expressing my feelings in any way, shape, or form, so with that being said, please bear with me on this letter.

For starters, before you became my big, I was terrified of who was soon to become mine. Although I absolutely loved the idea, it was hard to imagine having someone there to help me with things that I didn’t even know I needed help with. When I was asked who I wanted my Big to be, I honestly had no idea who I wanted. In all honesty, I was secretly hoping it would be someone who had some of the same interests as I did. She had to understand how much I love my family, and that right after them comes school. She had to understand that I will choose staying at home and watching Netflix and (or?) doing homework instead of going out. That I would much rather go out to eat than go to the gym. And most importantly that I value friendship more than anything else. I know that’s a lot to ask, but considering majority of the girls I had talked to had similar values, I wasn’t too worried. However, in a situation where there are just so many girls to choose from I truly had no idea who I wanted.

I will admit the first time I met you, I was hesitant about the situation. I wasn’t 100% sure if you and I would end up getting along in the long run, and that scared me. I had heard stories of sisters claiming that even to this day they don’t have a close bond with their Big and I felt bad for them because that honestly sucks. As the oldest in my family, I wanted to know what it was like to have a big sister, and being a sorority was going to help with that. So, yes, I did have very high expectations!

On the night of Big/Little reveal, I was honestly SUPER excited to find out that were officially mine!! Even though I had suspicions before that you were in fact my Big, I wasn’t entirely sure. I couldn’t have been any happier because I knew who you were and all that there was about you. I love the fact that you enjoy nerdy action movies just as much as I do. We both have crazy hectic studying schedules and somehow we still make time for each other. You feel my pain when I say that I want to do things but I am too lazy to do them. Last but certainly not least, you make an effort.

On that note, comes my next point. You are the greatest Big than anyone could ask for. You spoil me rotten with crafts and gifts, you come to me with any sort of crazy, exciting, or random news. We laugh, we probably will cry, gossip, and strive to succeed in our futures. Somehow you managed to check off every item on my crazy “Dream Big” checklist. I’m truly thankful for you, and I just wanted you to know that. We’re closer than I could have ever imagined and I truly look to you as the big sister I’ve always wanted! I will always support you in everything you do, and I will always be the person you can rely on. I love the bond we have and hope it stays that way forever!

With so so so much love,

Your Little <3

Read More...