17 Unforgettable Hannah Montana Moments

If you didn’t love Hannah Montana, you’re lying to yourself. Here are 17 moments you’ll always remember.

 

17. When Selena Gomez guest starred as Hannah’s rival popstar.

16.  Everything about Jake Ryan as a character. “I slayed you once…”

15. When the JoBros made an appearance.

14. When Rico tricked Miley into a little lip action.

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Why You Should Be Cutting Out The Bad Friend

Call this a blog post. Call it a PSA. Call it an article on the ins-and-outs of friendship.

Whatever you see it as, call it a message that needs to be HEARD.

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I have one particular issue that people around their mid-twenties (girls, especially) seem to continuously encounter, whether it hurt you in the past, bothers you daily, or keeps popping up in your life like a flower you’re allergic to. This rant is on the issue of cutting off friendships.

We all have that one friend, usually from high school or college, who you were just BESTIES with. You did everything together, the Bert to your Ernie without all the rubber ducky mumbo-jumbo (or perhaps even with it, after a night of tequila shots and childhood reminiscence- we’re not here to judge.)

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You were inseparable. You were sisters. You were each other’s secret keepers, confidants, and best friends. And when graduation came, you promised each other that nothing would change, you pinky-swore to the sky that your friendship, solid as diamond, would remain intact.

Well, kids… people grow up. Jobs happen, marriage happens, babies, new cars, more degrees, other friends, addictions, illnesses, new hobbies—they HAPPEN. And one day, two years or ten years after graduation, you wake up and realize the solid friendship you once cherished has crumbled.

This is when it’s time to take a good look at your life and evaluate who deserves to be in it.

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Now, listen.

There are two kinds of people in every relationship.

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I’m talking about the leader and the follower. The one who tries and the one who complies. The top-tier and second-tier. There is always, in every relationship ever established, a person who cares more than the other. And you my friend, if you are reading this article, are probably on the side of the follower. The trier. The second-tier. (Sorry to break it to you.)

Why else would you have clicked on a ramble-rant about letting go of the dead-end friendship?

It’s okay, though. These types of people are the ones who have many friends because they excel in keeping friendships afloat. You’re exceptionally good at planning and getting people to open up about their feelings. You’re the comfort friend- and that’s a good thing.

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What’s not okay is when your efforts are unappreciated and unnoticed. Now, admittedly, I’ve been both of these types of people. I’ve been strung along by someone I called my best friend, spending years putting in effort where it wasn’t appreciated or acknowledged and got my heart broke time and time again from it AND I have, admittedly, been the friend who keeps a person around simply because I’m too nice to say ‘hey- this was fun. But we had our run. See you around!’ to someone’s face.

Consequently, you either get hurt or hurt other people when you are in either of these positions. This is why you should CUT IT OFF NOW.

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Think of the person you’re spending all your time and energy caring about- the one whom you pictured when you read the title of this article. YOU ask about their life, YOU invest your time and effort into their problems, YOU go out of your way to see and love them because YOU are a good friend.

Now do yourself a favor and cut the dead weight of a long-gone friendship away from your positive well-being and LET IT GO.

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This will be hard.

Yes, you will have memories you cherish. YES, you might see each other around or at gatherings years from now- yes, you will reminisce. I’m not saying you have to tell them everything you hate about them and leave the scene a bloodbath. I’m not saying that not being close now invalidates the friendship you once had, either.

What I am saying is… now? Now, you’re upset because you’re not the way you guys once were. You’re not putting in equal effort, you’re not feeling the same sentiment about each other that you once did. You’re a shadow of your former selves, holding onto them because they remind you of a part of the past you love, not because of how they positively lift you up, now.

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This is damaging for multiple reasons, but the forefront of them is the simple fact that YOU are holding onto something and someone who simply doesn’t want you to grip them so tightly anymore and that realization is PAINFUL. It hurts and it’s hard, but that’s what it is.

And you’re worth more than that. We all are. Life is short and adventurous and messy and sporadic and dammit, it’s hard enough without having to put in effort where effort is certainly not deserved.

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In the long run, you will be happier. What’s the quote about being precious with your time? Be fiercely protective over it. Be very selective about who you spend it on because it is a finite amount that you will never be able to find more of. This is an attitude I’m trying to put forth in my everyday and you should, too. Be better than a person who lets other people take their time and effort and concentration from them. Make sure you’re a priority in the lives of those you care about. Spend your moments on people who make you feel like you MATTER because you do.

I know I’m going to.

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10 reasons why you should have friends outside of Greek life

This seems like a no-brainer but to some it may be a difficult concept. It’s great to be friends with all of the amazing women in your sorority and in Greek life as a whole. That said, it’s also very important to not limit those you make friends with by their affiliations to the Greek system you hold so dear. If you’re wondering why this is so important I’ve listed just a few reasons below:

10. They are a great unbiased outlet for listening to all the ups and downs you may experience in your sorority.

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9. They will listen to every officer speech, rho gamma presentation, and big/little poem you ever write because they genuinely care about your success in your organization.

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8. They will introduce you to other clubs, teams, and organizations on campus you may want to get involved in as well.

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7. They will always remind you to take a step back from sorority drama and remember why you joined in the first place.

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6. They will get you talking about things not related to Greek life when you really just need a break from it all.

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12 Things to Thank Your Best Friend from Home For

We have a lot to thank the person who has stuck with us since our awkward preteen/high school years. They saw us through our worst acne and our worst taste in fashion, but they’re still around. This one’s for them.

12. Thank you for helping me pick the best filter for my selfies.

You never judge when I send you three versions of the same picture and ask which one is prettier. And you’re usually right.

11. Thank you for wanting the best for me.

I know I go to school too far away for your liking, but thank you for understanding that it’s the place that makes me happy. Thank you for scrutinizing my taste in men because you don’t want to see my heart broken. Thank you for demanding that I treat myself better than I do.

10. Thank you for the laughter.

The moments when I’m doubled over, tears rolling down my face, and unable to breathe because I’m laughing so hard are my favorites, and I sure do have a lot of them with you. We bring out the weirdest parts of each other’s sense of humor, and I couldn’t ask for more.

9. Thank you for the silent moments.

I truly believe nothing marks a strong friendship quite like the ability to share a comfortable silence. Though we rarely run out of things to say, I love that we enjoy each other’s presence without having to say a word.

8. Thank you for sharing your family with me. 

Nothing beats how your parents and your dog are always more excited to see me than you are. Throughout the years, I’ve come to love your family like they’re my own. Thanks for letting me crash family gatherings, or for sending your sister to come get me when my car battery died back in high school.

7. Thank you for posting those Timehop pictures.

Yeah we were awkward and ugly, but we were having fun. My favorite days (most days) are the ones where I get to see exactly where we were 5 or 6 years ago, and smile at how much has changed since then. I’m amazed at who we were, and even more amazed at who we’ve become.

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10 Reasons To Love Being Disaffiliated For Recruitment

At my school, we’re Rho Gammas. Every campus has a different name for us, but every group does the same thing: we take off our letters to help you find yours. Wether you’re a recruitment counselor or a member of Panhel Exec board, it can be hard (and kind of sad) to be separated from your sisters, at least publicly. Luckily, there are some perks.

10. MORE T-SHIRTS


Since we can’t wear the plethora of shirts we have with our own chapter on them, being disaffiliated kind of eliminates your entire wardrobe. So, we obviously have to do an order of shirts that say Rho Gamma, or Pi Chi, or whatever on them. Right?

9. Getting to know other disaffiliated girls.


If your group is paired with the group of a girl you barely know, you’re about to spend 45 minutes eating food and sitting in a stranger’s bedroom with said girl. Chances are you’re gonna find something to talk and laugh about. The next time you see her on campus, you both smile and say hello and maybe make plans to grab coffee. And isn’t that what being a Greek woman is all about?

8. Getting the inside scoop.


As their recruitment counselor, the PNMs come to you with tough decisions. If they’re torn between to houses, you know about it. And you, with your infinite wisdom, get to help them figure out which one fits them better. You also know which girls become horrible and catty the second they step out of the houses.

7. Recruitment Week is a lot less stressful for us.


The week leading up to recruitment? That pretty much sucks. But we don’t have the pressure of impressing the girls, following your Recruitment Chair’s dress code, asking the right questions, and making sure you’re perfectly Panhellenic. We just have to put them in alphabetical order and hold their shit. Boom.

6. The questions.


The PNMs want nothing more than to figure out our affiliation. They will ask and guess and try to stalk our social media through its airtight security (thanks, Panhel). It’s fun to hear their guesses. It’s also fun to try and trick them. It’s even more fun when they figure out they get to be your sister.

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12 Reasons We Still Love High School Musical

Hey, Wildcats. How old do you feel knowing that it’s the ten year anniversary of High School Musical? I know I feel ancient. But somehow, we all still know every song, still watch the movies, and still retweet HSM themed memes on twitter. We all even paid to go see the third one in theaters. How did they get us so hooked? Did they know they were making a classic?

12. Troy and Gabriella are goals.


T as in Troy?? As annoying as they could be when they inevitably sang a {beautiful} break up song, they were the cutest couple ever. They withstood so much, from their friends sabotaging them to going off to different colleges.

11. We were all highkey jealous of Sharpay.


All that pink? People literally parting ways when you walk in the room? A literal monogramed car? I wanted to be Sharpay more than anything. And was she even that evil? I think not. She was just driven.

10. We still want to know if Ryan was gay.


They kept trying to ship him off with Kelsey, but no one I know bought that lie. It’s okay, Disney. Even as a 10 year old, I understood what it meant when a man wore that tight of pants.

9. The music is amazing.


Don’t lie to me. You still sing The Start of Something New every chance you get. We all got our heads in the game more times than we’re proud of. It’s okay.

8. Coach Bolton


What an awkward, dorky little man. But such a classic Disney father figure. “I’m not giving up MY dream, Dad. I’m giving up yours.” Beautiful.

7. Zeke’s baking.


Man, they gave him so much crap for liking something so normal. But with his mad baking skills, Zeke has won hearts, landed jobs, and made us all love him.

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11 Times You Wished You Were Blair Waldorf

Everyone’s Queen B has been providing inspiration to all basic bitches for years.

11. When she always looked fierce.

Blair rocked outfits that none of us will ever be brave enough to try. And she looked damn good doing it.

10. When her work ethic could make anyone feel inadequate.

Say what you will, Blair worked hard for what she wanted. Even if her methods weren’t always pure, she wasn’t afraid of dirty work.

9. When she knew the ways of the world.

She’s not wrong, is she? There’s nothing quite like spending an exuberant amount of money.

8. When she would do anything for her friends.

No matter how much she and Serena fought, Blair always dropped everything when Serena needed her. She knew Serena better than anyone, and alway knew what was best for her.

7. When she dropped this wisdom.

Blair had it figured out. Who doesn’t want to be all powerful? Cause B sure was.

6. When she never hesitated to cut toxic people from her life.

Sure, she was maybe a little dramatic when she banished Little J, but honestly, who wouldn’t?

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A Goodbye to My Past Self

Dear Past Self,
Thank you for everything.  You have given me many wonderful memories and carried me through a lot of rough times.  You have been with me for many years now but unfortunately it is now time to say goodbye to you and everything that you represent to me.
For a while you were all that I had.  Growing up I relied on you for everything and you were always there.  I counted on you to bring me up when I was sad and to encourage me to reach further than I thought that I could.  And that was good enough for then but now it is time to move on.
You stayed strong for a long time through all of the stress I put you through but over this past year I have felt you breaking down.  I know I didn’t make it easy.  I had many negative thoughts, I brought people into our life that brought us down and I severely overworked us.  I am sorry for that and I thank you for staying with me.  But I know you are tired of struggling through.
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However, even more important, you kept me positive and strong enough to create this new person for myself.  You brought me to this place where I can finally let you go.  I can say goodbye to you and goodbye to all of my old insecurities.  I can leave behind my doubts about myself and forget the mistakes that I have made.  I can take down the limits and the barriers that I have set for myself and develop as a person.
So I say goodbye to you, my past self.  I thank you for bringing me to this new chapter in my life but its time that I move past the person that I once was and become someone new.  I hope to become a more confident and happy version of you.  I want to learn to relax and not take everything so seriously.  By letting you go, I will finally be able to grow.
You will always remain with me but its time for me to move on without you.
Me
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The 10 Worst Girls You Know

If you can make me laugh, you can be in my circle. If you’re any of these people below… you can’t. As my bestie’s ex bf once put it, “my treehouse is full” (and nobody has room for girls like this).

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10. The Drama Queen

This girl’s always startin’ something. If a friend says ‘nice shirt’, she probably assumes it was a back-handed comment about how her entire outfit sucks… and then tries to get you to talk sh*t about them for an hour.

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9. The Negative Nancy

Let’s be clear: this girl thinks EVERYTHING IS AWFUL. A boy smiles at her? UGH, HE WAS PROBABLY LAUGHING AT ME. Find $10 on the ground? UGH, I’M JUST GOING TO HAVE TO USE THIS ON RENT. Get invited to a party? UGH, THIS IS GOING TO BE SUCH A BAD NIGHT. You can’t win.

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8. The Girl Who Hates Girls

This girl doesn’t like you because you were also born with a double-X chromosome. Maybe she’s threatened? Maybe she’s jealous? Maybe you look better in a leather jacket than she does? There’s really no logical explanation.

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7. The Flirty “Friend”

This girl will flirt with your boyfriend right in front of your face and pretend she was just too drunk to know what was happening. Do. Not. Trust. Her.

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6. The “Helpless Because I’m A Girl” – Girl

Nothing annoys me more than a girl who refuses to do anything for herself. ‘Help, I can’t do this hard task by myself! I’m a girl!’… ugh. This is not the 1920’s, okay? BELIEVE ME, boys, she knows what she’s doing. In reality, she’s the mastermind of us all.

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An Open Letter to the Friendship That Faded Away.

Hey there.

I just want to start with an apology. I’m sorry that we fell apart. I’m sorry that our dreams of conquering the world together never came true. In high school, we were inseparable. No one said one of our names without the other, and I never could have imagined that ending.

I think we both need to hold ourselves accountable. We both stopped trying, or we would still be close. If we really wanted to stay in each other’s lives, it would have happened. So, again, I’m sorry I gave up. There was a time when you meant more to me than anything, and somehow that went away.

But at the same time, I’m not sorry. I’m not sorry for the times I made you laugh so hard you cried. I’m not sorry for doing ridiculous makeovers and taking way too many pictures. I’m not sorry for the “firsts” we experienced together.

I also need to thank you. Thank you for listening to me talk about my silly high school boy problems. Thank you for sharing your family with me (tell your mom I miss her spaghetti terribly). Thank you for having study dates with me so that we could pass those horrible senior English tests. Thank you for watching little kids shows with me in the middle of the night. Thank you for letting me be the godmother of your puppy. Thank you for pushing me to be my best for the entirety of our friendship.

And thank you for giving up on us. I mean it. Thank you for letting me start college fresh, make new friends, and not feel guilty for leaving you behind. Thank you for letting me start a new chapter of my life, even if it was a chapter I always imagined you’d be in. Thank you for showing me that I can stand on my own two feet, even if I stumble at first. Thank you for starting your own new chapter with your own new friends, so I can still keep up with you on instagram.

Thank you for always texting me about getting coffee. Thank you for still reaching out even if we can’t always make time for each other. Thank you for remembering my birthday. Thank you for sending me a snapchat when you see something that reminds you of me.

I still love you more than you know. I will forever be grateful for all you gave me. You are still with me, like a handprint on my heart.

-Your Ra

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10 Struggles of Having a Close Friend Group Back Home

There’s something very special about having a group of friends you grew up with. It’s a bond that’s really hard to break, but as everyone gets older and starts to move their separate ways, it becomes harder and harder to see this unique second family as often as you’d like.

10. Holidays become a balancing act.


You have obligations to see your family, which often includes traveling to see extended family. But now that you don’t get to see your friends every day, you need to fit them in, too. You have to ask your parents for holiday plans way in advance, so your friend group can find common time to reunite.

9. Your FaceTime history is extensive.


Most people have their mom and their boyfriend as their regular FaceTime calls. People with long distance friend groups have so many more in their “recents.”

8. FOMO is so real.


Nothing sucks more than seeing snapchats of other people in your friend group hanging out when you’re 7 hours away. There’s always the irrational fear that they’re having more fun without you, or that you’re replaceable.

7. Timehop makes you happy/sad.


It’s so fun to laugh at the stupid stuff you guys used to do together, but it’s a bittersweet reminder that your average Tuesday no longer involves making memories with the people you miss so much.

6. Your new friends don’t know them.


One of your BFFs back home just texted you about the most hilarious inside joke, and your new friends want to know what’s so funny. You can either say “oh, nothing,” and remind yourself how much life has changed, or you can tell the 20 minute backstory to a sentence-long text which no one will find as funny as you do. It’s a loose-loose.

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Why Being a Rho Chi Gives You the Ultimate FOMO

There is glitter in the air, the faint sounds of chanting and crafts filling the room, this can only mean one thing, recruitment season is coming soon.  Whether you love recruitment or hate it, this is what every sorority girl lives for.  This is the happiest and most stressful time of year but in the end we all have the joy of receiving brand new girls.  While this time is clearly stressful for everyone, there is one group of people who rarely get thanked for making our lives as easy as possible.  We know them well, some may even be your sisters, but at this time, they are Greek Life’s Recruitment Counselors.
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This past semester, I had the honor of serving as a Rho Chi for my Panhellenic community.  While this was one of the most rewarding experiences I have had within Greek life, it was also the most severe case of FOMO that I have ever had.  For those of you who don’t know, Rho Chi’s are “disaffiliated” from their chapters for between one and three months and during that time, they are not allowed to be seen in public with their sisters or attend sorority functions.  This would be difficult for anyone but Rho Chi’s have a special love for Greek Life which tends to make it especially hard.
As any college student can tell you, they want to be part of everything.  In a perfect world, you would never miss a party, a dinner or any event and you would never have silly things like sleep and homework to hold you back.  But the life of a Rho Chi is all about watching from a distance.  You are at every Greek wide event and spend your time talking about sisterhood but all of it has to take place across the room from all of your sisters who have made your sorority experience so wonderful to talk about.  So you stand there and encourage wonderful new college women to join Greek life and long for the day that you can re-join along with them.
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The experience of being a Rho Chi provided me with many things.  It taught me a lot about recruitment and communication, it furthered my love for Greek life and my campus and it gave me the ability to learn a lot about myself.  However, it also showed me how lost I am without my chapter.  I realized that I missed sitting with them for meals, I missed going out with them, and I missed the small encounters with sisters that can sometimes just make my day.  My only saving grace during these times were the other wonderful Rho Chi’s including a few from my own chapter.  They became my home away from my sorority home.
While this was a relatively consistent factor of this experience, it began its peak during the actual week of recruitment.  The most difficult parts are sending girls to your chapter’s room and not smiling and cheering on your sisters, controlling the desire to recruit the girls you meet for your own chapter, and being on the outside of the always emotional preference ceremony.  All of these things together pull hard at your heart strings and cause you to love your chapter more than ever.
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While all of this FOMO is a short time hardship, it is all worth it in the end.  Helping younger girls to find their home, renewing the love you have for your chapter and running into the arms of all of your sisters at the end of the week makes this an experience that you will never forget.  If you are lucky enough to be a Recruitment Counselor for your campus’ Greek life, remember that although you may experience severe FOMO, you will be able to change lives and improve your community.  So stay positive and make the most of this amazing experience that few people get to have.

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