Stages of picking out a formal dress

As formal season rapidly approaches, dress planing has obviously started months ago. Has he asked you yet? Probably not. Are you more than prepared to say yes even though you tell him you need to “check your calendar”? Yes. Have you been prepping for this night for like 2 months? H&ll yeah! But before you finally walk out that door in heels slightly too high, these are the steps you take to pick out that perfect dress.

Pinterest: This stage happens for months if not years. Randomly in the summer if you’re bored, when you’re at work with nothing to do,  or even when you’re watching some fashion show on TV you are on Pinterest. Every dress from every color. You have different boards for different themes, colors, seasons, level of hotness of date, even different styles of dress and different ways you want the night to end. No matter what they formal is, you are ready for anything. You clearly have a favorite style and color, but that will never stop you from pinning anything that even remotely catches your eye.

Casual mall trip: 

You don’t expect to find anything this time, but the lure of trying on every dress you see sounds like a fantastic idea. Maybe you were walking around with friends and saw the cutest thing on the rack, or you’re with your mom and hoping maybe she’ll buy that dress that makes your ass look huge and your wallet look tiny. Any way you’re basically just here for the fun. Its like a dress pregame. Soon you realize that the dress might have to wait until all that winter weight is gone, from three winters ago.


Now you actually want your dress. You want to have that moment when you know that its the one. And you hate yourself. Nothing looks good, nothing fits, nothing is your size. Everything makes you look like a fat ugly cow. No matter how many people tell you how amazing you look, you are not ready for any of this. You want out of the store as soon as possible, and you want a pizza all to yourself. This is the moment where you swear yourself to the gym, and off candy, and even maybe off alcohol. Formal season is serious business. How are you expected to take pictures when you can’t look in a mirror.

The one:

You find it. Finally after searching for what feels like forever. It fits perfectly, it shows exactly what you want it to show. You are going to be the belle of the ball. No one can top you, and you know it! HOT DAMN! You are so ready for formal, no go out there and kick its butt!!!!

The moment of doubt:

 So like you were supposed to stay off the internet for the next week, but here you are crying over your laptop, about a dress that isn’t yours. It took you so long to find the actual one, and now you’re doubting everything you once held so dear. But you realize, that the first dress you had is the perfect one, and you don’t need to worry if there is something better out there because there is not.


And maybe now is the perfect time for someone to actually ask you.


Why Are Sororities and Fraternities “Greek”?

While Greek life, including social, service, and other types of fraternities and sororities, is understood to be something that is present on most college campuses in some form or another, why exactly is it “Greek” to begin with? Why not Arabic, or Thai, or American?


First, we need to look at the history of similar organizations. After all, organizations focused on scholarship, rhetoric, and ethical conduct started long before the inception of Greek life as we know it today. By 1770, Latin Societies existed at nearly all schools as competing organizations on campus. The literary exercises of these societies consisted of debates, political, social, or religious discussion, and composing and delivering original poems, essays, and fiction. These Latin societies are a big part of the development of modern Greek life due to the fact that early fraternities were considered private versions of the open forums of Latin societies.


The Phi Beta Kappa Society at the College of William and Mary was the first fraternal organization in the United States, founded December 5, 1776 by John Heath. Heath started his Greek society in protest of being rejected from several of these Latin letter societies, with the intention of starting an organization with “friendship at its basis and benevolence and literature at its pillars”. This society established the precedent of using Greek letters based on the initials of a secret Greek motto. Phi Beta Kappa is named for its motto: “φιλοσοφια βιου κυβερνητης” (philosophia biou kybernētēs), meaning “philosophy is the helmsman of life”.next



20 Things Only RPI Students Understand

Getting into a school like Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute and making your way through the difficult course-load is tough. As one of the proud students of RPI, you have come to find that there are certain things that those who go elsewhere just won’t ever get.

20. No, you don’t go to RIT/WPI/MIT. Going home for the holidays, every relative is going to ask how school’s going up at RIT… or WPI… or MIT. For some reason, no one can ever actually get that you go to RPI.


19. The Ratio. This one’s actually gotten better in recent years, but it still stands that RPI’s male to female ratio is a wonderful 65/35. It’s slightly offset by Troy’s other college, Russell Sage College, which is basically all girls.


18. Mascot? RPI’s had numerous mascots over the years, from the Engineers, to Puckman, to the Bachelors, and the Redhawks, it’s hard to keep them straight.


17. Shuttle Problems. RPI’s shuttle service can be really annoying. Even though there’s an app that lets you track their locations, you almost always end up watching it leave the stop and have to wait 15 minutes for the next one.


16. Frat Parties or No Parties. Being an engineering school means you have limited options for parties.. Luckily there are around 30 fraternities at RPI, most of which have nice houses and throw great parties. So where’re you going on Friday night? ZOO?, RSE?, Phi Tau?


15. Archies are a Myth. If you become an Architecture Major at RPI, you’re basically condemning yourself to a life of no sleep, and indentured servitude. The Greene Building (the architecture building), is your second home, and your friends will always be surprised when you text your group saying you’re actually free for once.


14. Psychology Classes. RPI’s classes are NOT easy. However, the lower level psychs are often GPA boosters for all the poor engineering and science students, who only dream of getting As in their regular classes.


13. Commons. Unless there’s a special event, the food there is not really any good. Mystery meat and Chinese food is always on the menu. If you’re feeling extra adventurous, try the pizza bagels, if you’re lucky you’ll get a cinnamon raisin bagel…


12. The Approach. The bane of any students who live in downtown, the Approach is a huge staircase that leads up Troy’s big hill to RPI’s campus. Composed of an ungodly amount of stairs, if you’re not winded and sweating by the time you’re done lugging your heavy science books to the top, you’re inhuman.


11. Humans Vs. Zombies. It’s basically a giant game of tag with a Walking Dead theme. The random guys running around with guns and bandanas on their arms aren’t gang members (unless you’re in South Troy), they’re humans who’re fighting their zombie counterparts. If you’re lucky, one of them will disrupt your class, radio-in-hand, yelling some gibberish about a horde by the Sage building.




Greek Life On and Off the Silver Screen

While Hollywood has always shown its perspective on Greek life, there is often little truth to the images on the silver screen. When looking at a few of the well-known movies centered around Greeks, we can see the differences between cinematic myth and reality.

21 & Over Starring Justin Chon, Miles Teller, and Skylar Astin (2013)

MYTH: There are fraternities and sororities that only allow people of a certain race or ethnicity to join. In the movie, a Latina-only sorority filled with crazed, vengeful girls, armed with golf clubs and other weapons chases the main characters out of their chapter house. (No. the main characters should not have broken into the house, but that’s not the point here.)
REALITY: While racial and religious restrictions have been abolished in all North-American Interfraternity Conference and National Panhellenic Conference organizations, fraternities and sororities can be oriented towards students who have an interest in certain cultures or cultural identities.

Animal House Starring John Belushi, Tim Matheson, and John Vernon (1978)

MYTH: Anyone involved in Greek life is stupid and doesn’t work hard in school. In the movie, the Delta Tau Chi fraternity has an extremely low GPA, with all of the brothers having GPAs ranging from 0.0 to 1.6.
REALITY: At nearly every college and university that offers Greek life, the average Greek GPA is higher than that of their non-Greek counterparts. In addition, sororities and fraternities have their own standards for the minimum GPA allowed before an individual is placed on academic probation.




My Boyfriend’s Fraternity Doesn’t do Sweethearts, And I’m Glad

Women are vicious. They can be dramatic, crazy, irrational, and down right mean sometimes. Throw in the ability to call yourself the sweetheart of a fraternity, and there is nothing that can stand in a woman’s way. Fraternities all over the country have to deal with the fighting, and normally they use the girl’s willingness to do literally anything for entertainment purposes. These can range from convincing them to bake, to an all out Miss America pageant. I know when I learned about sweethearting I was ready to do anything to get those letters. And then I learned that the Fraternity that my boyfriend joined didn’t do sweethearts.

While that was hard to come to terms with at the beginning, now I realize it was a blessing in disguise. There is a sense of peace between the girlfriends and girls that hang around the house, in a weird sort of way it is relaxing. There is no point in the year when suddenly everyone is against each other, or people are trying to manipulate each other, and the house is torn apart by which girl they support.

My freshmen year, there was a ton of tension between girlfriends and girl friends. While I didn’t know a ton about the feud, I could still feel that it was there, and I was scared to commit to being friends with either group. While that fighting has lessened over the years, there is still a few girls that come into the house that stir up that fighting spirit. And those girls are completely despised.







(Texas A&M ’84 Tri Delt formal in picture above)

Going greek now is definitely an adventure. But we can only image what it was like to srat in the 80’s. Seems like they partied through the ice age with all of the dinosaurs. Must have been lame! WRONG! Some of us are jealous and wish we were there, partying it up with super big hair!

(80’s hit read for rushing)

5. Your favorite rush party theme is 80’s in Aspen and you prepared more for Sig Ep’s party last year than you did for your Chemistry final!

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4. Your second favorite rush party theme is highlighter because it’s kinda like 80’s in Aspen but you usually just wear anything stretchy and neon which is also super comfortable.

3.   Everyone says your hair is big but you don’t care because hairspray is your friend.

2.  You’ve admired the frat house’s composite picture wall from the 80’s on more than one occasion because they were definitely hotter back in the day.

1. And last, but definitely NOT least. You’re super jealous that the standards chair couldn’t keep tabs on them through social media!




The Stages of a Frat Party As Told By Disney

You’ve made it through week’s grind and decide you deserve to let loose this weekend a have a little fun. You and you friends know that one of the fraternities on campus is having a party and that’s exactly where you plan to be.

It’s time to get ready. Is there a theme you need to dress for? Toga Party? Anything but clothes? Everyone is gathered together swapping clothes, trying to figure out what will look best on everyone.


Let’s pre-game. Whether you are drinking at your place or traveling somewhere else, it’s time to get the night started. This is also your chance to take pictures without fear of “drunk eyes” or spills on your outfit.


Get everyone ready to leave. Unless you’re hosting somehow, you need to travel to the real party. You have to get everyone together and make sure the sober/designated driver has room in their car. (Pro-tip: That last girl your looking for is either downing another last minute shot, taking pictures, or in the bathroom because she already broke the seal.)


Your grand entrance. It doesn’t matter how long it’s been since the fraternity began partying, as far as you’re concerned, the party didn’t start until you arrived.


Go get something to drink. Pick your poison. Did you bring your drink or will you be fighting your way to and from the bar while avoiding spilling the entire drink on yourself?


That awkward first half-hour. Assuming your pre-game didn’t run over into this time, there’s a good chance that there will be a chunk of time where you aren’t the only ones there but you’re still waiting for things to pick up. At least you have your friends to hold you over until the fun is in full swing.


The party is in ramping up. The dance floor is filling up. People are playing beer pong and slap cup, and the drinks are flowing.


It’s peak party time. You’re with all of your friends, the music and games are great, and the dance floor is full. If you’re drinking tonight, this is when you’ve hit that perfect level where nothing can bring you down.




Lessons I’ve Learned From My Friend Who Has Cancer

My Best Friend has osteosarcoma, or bone cancer. He was diagnosed in July and for the most part hasn’t had serious issues with his treatment. He’s still the same goofy best friend I knew before he was diagnosed. But the thing is, I’m not the same anymore. I’m terrified, anxious and worried for him and his health. This is one of the hardest things I’ve had to go through. And people can say “Oh boo hoo, you aren’t the one stuck in a hospital bed getting treatment.” You’re right. I’m not the one getting drugs infused in my body every other week, but I’m heartbroken for him that a 20 year old has to face something like this in his junior year of college.

We schedule all of our classes together. Seriously three out of five of them. We lived in the same dorm and would walk to the caf at 7:20am every morning before our 8 am class together. I would eat dinner with him and his brothers at least twice a week. He’s like a brother to me. All of the Beta Theta Pi’s are on our campus. We would all go out every single weekend together. He and two of his brothers scooped me up off the floor after a breakup, handed me a beer and tortilla chips, and sat me in the middle of their room and let me cry while chugging a beer. So when I got a text while in the car on the way to Myrtle Beach saying he wouldn’t be returning this semester, I didn’t know what to do or say.

His cancer is in his knee and thankfully has stayed in one place. While it hasn’t been an easy journey, he has stayed extremely upbeat and positive. He even just got elected President of the Student Union, or the student body on campus. But as much as he relies on me for positivity and to not talk about cancer or what’s going on sometimes, I’ve relied on him all since July to teach me to be a better person. I never thought that there would be a semester where he wouldn’t be here. But even though he isn’t here, I’ve learned a lot about myself and how to look at life a little differently.

You cannot look at tomorrow and your planner and groan. I’m sure you have fifty thousand things to do. We all do. But that doesn’t meant that tomorrow is going to be the worst day of your life. Tomorrow might be the best day! Who knows? Maybe you’ll buy a lottery ticket and win a million dollars on a whim or you’ll meet the man of your dreams and turn into Cinderella when the clock strikes midnight. Regardless, you can’t look at everyday as a list of things you just need to get through. Going through the motions is a waste of time. I’m sure my best friend would love to be sitting there doing everything he possibly could cram into a day, and he can’t right now. So don’t just sit around and watch Netflix everyday because it’s raining and you’re bored. Get outside and go do something.

Being patient and waiting is one of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn in life. Have I mastered it yet? No, absolutely not. But, I have a better appreciation for waiting for things. The number of days it takes waiting to hear if a doctor has called him back yet or waiting to hear the best news that he’s being released a day early from the hospital; it’s not easy to be patient. It’s not easy when you just want someone to be healed right away and you wish that you could take away any pain. Cancer is a waiting game: the deadliest and most frustrating game life could ever play on someone. I’ve learned though that as annoyed as I am about waiting to hear how he’s doing and wishing his doctors would hurry the heck up, he’s just as frustrated. You have to take a step back and realize that things take time and to be more understanding and especially when he’s frustrated about it, there’s no reason for me to be. It just adds to stress that he doesn’t need to deal with.

And I think the biggest thing I’ve learned throughout this entire journey is to be thankful for every single day that we’re given. You honestly can’t predict what tomorrow is going to bring. There’s never a way of knowing what could happen a month from now. I never thought that my best friend would be sitting in the hospital for a week at a time going through chemotherapy. It can easily be me or any of our other friends in a similar position at any time, and you just can’t take life for granted. The things that every college student complains about especially me, like not wanting to go to class just because I have a headache or not wanting to do homework because I’d rather go to bed early are things I’ve learned I need to stop whining about. Stay up late, and strive to be the best you can because someone else is counting on you to do that.

I never thought I would ever write an article like this. But i’m thankful for our friends who constantly make sure that we’re all surviving, and most importantly, supporting him. He’s been kicking this tumor’s ass like no one else could. Because out of any of us, he’s the strongest and I’m so lucky to call him my best friend.


Dating the Face of the Fraternity

Whether he’s the president, on exec, or king frat, it can be hard dating someone who represents an entire fraternity.

He’s the guy every one knows.
Meaning, yes, even every girl knows him, too (and has probably already thought of booting you out of your position).

You get to know all of his bros. Every. Single. One.
He has such a tight relationship with his bros, that it just screams brotherhood. Therefore, you get to reap the benefits and really get to know a fraternity you probably didn’t have a second thought about when you first joined. But you love them each like your own brothers.

In public, it’s always all about the frat.
You never catch him without either a rush shirt or his letters on. He is dedicated to showing his pride in his house. Which is admittedly kind of cute, but you still wish he’d wear your crush tank at least once.

He’s not afraid of anything.
Meaning that if given a challenge, he most certainly will do it no matter how reckless it is. And how many times you tell him that no, he cannot surf down the stairs on the couch and it doesn’t matter how much cushion is on it, you want your security deposit back and your boyfriend alive.

His confidence level is off the charts.
Being the main person people think of when they think of a fraternity is a high honor, and a major confidence boost. It’s nice to see him hold his head high- even when you have to hold it over the toilet. #FRATHARD

No matter who he meets, you’re still his girl.
Sure, he may meet several girls a night. All more than likely to have flirted and tried to see if they can sneak a pass. But at the end of the day, it’s you he comes home to, and you who he’s thinking about when he’s out. You that he’s proud to have. And you’re sure proud to have him.


10 Greatest Frat Party Finds

The Greatest Frat Party

When the weekend arrives  we all gear up for the next round of frat parties. There’s houses that you favor over others, and parties can be a hit or miss. There are a few things that can make a party one we never want to leave, and they’re super simple!

10. A beverage that is not alcohol… or cranberry juice. Thanks to the cute guy that offered me the shot I’m holding, but no thanks to the frat bros that don’t have a drop of any liquid that’s not liquor. No orange juice, no diet coke- just tap water that runs slightly brown and good old natty lights. It’s a rare and beautiful thing to see a carton of orange juice following the bottle of Jack Daniels that is floating around the room. Not every girl can handle liquor straight (props to those who can) and not every girl wants to drink every single night. Sometimes it’s nice to kick back with a red solo cup of diet coke and not have to deal with a killer hangover in the morning.

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9. Seats. Despite how cute you look in your new heels, you’re going to be begging for a chair to relieve your already-blistering feet.  After hanging on the dance floor for an hour partying with the cute boys, the last thing any girl wants to do is stand against a wall with her feet on fire and her legs about to buckle. Is having your shoe game on point worth the barefoot walk to Tacobell? Obvs- but it would be nice if the frat house had a chair or two instead of an entire first floor with no furniture and just a DJ booth.

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8. Games. Every frat party will feature some good ol’ beer pong and the occasional game of flip cup. A memorable rager will bring something more to the table. Maybe it’s corn hole and ladder ball set up outside (sorority sisters vs. frat bros?) or a karaoke machine set up next to the DJ booth, entertainment that doesn’t focus on drinking will spice things up and allow everyone a reason to talk to each other more than just asking who is next on the BP table. Who doesn’t love drunk karaoke anyway?

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7. Seeing your ex with a total downgrade. Ha. Ha. Ha. Nothing is more satisfying than knowing you look hot and seeing your ex walk through the door followed by a girl who is… well, less hot. You can’t help but have a smirk on your face and suddenly that “hey can we talk” text you were thinking about sending him becomes a distant memory. You know he’s sneaking peeks at you flirting with frat guys, and his girlfriend won’t stop whispering to her friends about you. It doesn’t matter though, because you’re a boss ass bitch.

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6. Gentlemen. When thinking of the stereotypical frat bro, “sweet, kind and caring” probably won’t come to mind before pastel pants and beer bongs do. It’s a breath of fresh air to find a frat star who will give you his sweater when it’s chilly, not roll his eyes when you ask him to take a picture of you, and not dead you if you don’t want to hook up with him. Finding reliable guys makes the party feel safer and more inviting.

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5. Food. How awesome would it be to save the 2a.m. Jimmy Johns run for next weekend because the host frat ordered a few dozen 99 cent hamburgers for the tail end of the festivities? We can all agree that besides the cops busting it, the #2 reason why we dip out of frat parties is because we’re way too hungry to enjoy ourselves (and could use something greasy to sober up). Even if there were store-bought cookies and chips, any effort would be a pleasant surprise that would keep the rager going longer.

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4. Those super nice drunk girls you meet in the bathroom. Well, this isn’t exactly rare to find, but it definitely gives you a good laugh and a (vague) memory the next morning. For some reason, the bathroom is a magical land of cold tiles and little toilet paper that makes bitch faces and attitudes mysteriously vanish. Even if you barge through the door (because the lock is probably broken) and walk in on two girls crying, you’ll probably end up joining in on a group hug and taking an Instagram picture together.

 Greatest Frat Party

3. A Clean Bathroom. Boys are gross and so are their bathrooms. With your luck, it was hair cut day at the frat house and the entire floor is covered with excess hair. There’s mold outlining the sink and toilet, and you might even be greeted by an un-flushed toilet. You never know what you’ll get when you swing open the bathroom door, but it would be a gift from above to walk into bathroom that doesn’t make you want to vomit… and not from drinking. It’s actually attractive when guys are clean and hygienic.

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2. Good lighting/ Picture backgrounds. Dark frat houses aren’t usually ideal for snapping a new profile picture, but if there’s a room that actually has working lights where you can actually see how cute your outfit is, it’s a total plus! Girls’ eyes also light up when they catch a glimpse of a huge American flag, frat flag, or poster on the wall that they can pose in front of for the perfect Friday night Insta post. Pictures are the perfect memories!

 Greatest Frat Party

1. Dogs. Having a furry frat house friend scampering around in the backyard is not only great for cute pictures, but adds a massive amount of cuteness to the fun! It’s adorable to watch the guys play with their dog, and it’s nice to obsess over something that isn’t a boy for once, right?

 Greatest Frat Party

These are a few of the hidden treasures that make every frat party a bit more enjoyable. Take notes, frat boys!



Don’t Judge a Book By Its Cover (or a Guy by His Letters)

Everyone has that favorite fraternity. It’s the one you inevitably end up at every weekend. Whether you start there or not, you’ll always end up on their back porch at one in the morning singing some loud patriotic, country song. Maybe your boyfriend or crush is a brother, or the guys are ridiculously hot. Maybe it’s where all your friends are or where you’re the most comfortable. For me, I spend A LOT OF TIME (as in every weekend) at one house. The guys are genuine, easy to talk to, and my boyfriend is rushing there next Fall.

Now, it’s story time. Once upon a time, naive first semester me went out every weekend to New Row. This grand stretch of glorious houses, filled with more than enough new boys could entertain my friends and I for hours. In a big university like mine, there are thirty fraternities. A few are well known, either as being great or completely underrated. Everyone else kind of falls in the middle. Every now and then, we would venture to Old Row – which we viewed as the slightly forgotten area. The houses may be smaller and the amount of members typically matched it. After going to more than a few bigger fraternity parties, my also naive friends and I ended up in a quiet Old Row house (which I will continue to leave unnamed). This place was different – the bathrooms were always clean and well decorated, there were enough people to have fun without it being cramped, and you could talk without yelling to the person next to you. After going to the house once and coming back a few weekends later, I discovered the best part of the fraternity. The brothers cared to know my name.

Okay, about now you’re probably reading this thinking, so what? Maybe I’m just too quiet to approach people or no one wants to remember my name at the other houses. But that wasn’t it. It’s not for lacking of trying by the brothers in other houses – it’s just these guys were able to be friends with literally everyone who walked through the door. There were no closed parties and they could care less if you’re Greek or not. They just want to have fun, which is why I like them.

If you mentioned this fraternity to me in the beginning of the year, I doubt I would have known anything about them outside of their placement on Old Row. There are nice guys and terrible guys in every house and neither should be judged by their letters. So, my lesson to all of you lovely women (and men, if you’re reading this) is to not judge a house by its reputation or a guy by the letters he wears. Every brother earned his right to wear them and if he was chosen by an organization, there’s a reason why. Venture out from the fraternities you always hear about and meet some new people. You never know where you’ll meet the brothers who you’ll personally decide make up the best house on campus.


25 Unique Theme Party Ideas That You Should Try

Tired of the same themes for your socials/mixers/swaps/date functions? Check out the list of the best 25


25. White Trash Bash- Dress in your crop tops and cutoff shorts- and don’t forget your red lipstick

24. New Year’s Eve again- Glitter, sparkles, and suits- perfect for the first week back from Winter of Summer Break

23. Greek Sterotypes- Guys dress “Frat”-backwards caps, t shirts and sperrys, Girls dress “Srat”-Lilly dresses and monogrammed necklaces

22. Toga Party- Cause we are all Greek anyway

21. Great Fratsby- Roaring 20s with flapper dresses and gang members

20. 50s- T-Birds and Pink Ladies