I understand that as a society, there are things wrong, and we must address them. But recently we have started making mountains out of mole hills, making issues larger than they are, and blowing every little word out of proportion.
1) Bullying: Almost every month in High School, there was some sort of program/meeting/assembly about bullying. I went to an all white, extremely middle-class, public high school. While people were terribly mean to each other, there was never really bullying. And I get that it is a problem with certain people, in different schools, but really the way that it blew up for 3 or 4 years was extremely unnecessary.
If you’re getting bullied on the internet the best fix is to shut off the computer… If you’re getting bullied in real life, just walk away. No one cares as much as the adults in school think they did. Instead of spending at least a week over the school year talking about a subject that didn’t entirely pertain to us, really it is up to the parents to deal with that. A good ole smack to the back of the head is really all that is needed to fix a bully, not a seminar on feelings.
2) Hazing: This is an issue. People died, and laws needed to be put into place. But society has taken this issue, and turned it into everything. My sorority is not allowed to do anything anymore. There are no requirements to meet to be initiated. Basically you have to be recruited, then sit around for 7 weeks not really learning anything, and not having to do anything you don’t want to. We can’t even encourage them to do certain things, like getting to know each other better, trying to meet all the sisters in the chapter, or even scavenger hunts. Society took a handful of terrible incidents, and blew it into a complete national overhaul.
Every national chapter is too worried covering their asses as to not get thrown into the news that chapters walk around on eggshells, making everything optional, and not doing anything that may be seen as possibly a slight suggestion of hazing. Its bullsh*t. Paddling, naked laps, bottle squats, and body shaming. These are things that should never be done to another person. These are the types of hazing that should be banned, and that people should get in trouble for. Conversations, games, knowledge about the organization you are joining, getting to know each other, and responsibilities around campus. These are things that are banned, that chapters can get totally f-ed over for, that make no sense to me. And its not just in Greek life. Its sports, student government, classes. Every one is watching their backs and turning into complete babies. How are people supposed to know how to set up the sports equipment if they aren’t taught how to as freshmen?
3) Shaming: There is now a disclaimer on the first amendment. No longer is it freedom of speech. Now its the freedom to say things that don’t offend any one and doesn’t have an opinion on anything, and that can’t be taken negativity. Say someone has slept with a guy she shouldn’t have? Slut shaming. Say someone that large is unhealthy and more likely to develop heart problems? Fat shaming. Say you don’t like the way someone’s body looks? Body shaming. Anything you have a differing opinion on is shaming.
My friend recently commented on how a celebrity had gained a few pounds. He was then immediately attacked by everyone else in my group about how he is fat shaming, and body shaming, and how he didn’t have the right to talk about her like that because his views weren’t perfect. Basically he was allowed he wasn’t aloud to voice his opinion. Stop! It is a first amendment right that you can say what you want, as long as you’re not threatening the life or rights of another human being. You can say what ever you want. And people are allowed to disagree with you. But no one should ever feel like what they believe in is not allowed to be shared openly.