It took me a long time to dump him. You know, HIM, the frat-star or football quarterback who said he would be there for you but is no where to found when your car dies at 2am on a Saturday night.
Him, the one who knows your Starbucks order and your shoe size, but always manages to avoid family dinners.
Him, the one you would cross oceans for, but can’t seem to decide if he’s a one woman kind of guy.
Him, the nice one from the animal shelter who was just too nice to tell you that he cheated on you with your best friend. Twice.
Or maybe him, the one your mom introduced you to who forgot your birthday AND your anniversary. Whoever your HIM is, it took me far too long to let go of mine. In fact, it took fourteen months of dreaming over HIM to realize that while I thought I fell for his dark hair and quiet smile, I should have been falling in love with someone else: myself. After 426 days of wanting to love HIM, I decided right then and there to never beg for the love, attention, or respect of someone at my own expense, no matter how amazing he was. So, instead of spending my sophomore year of college exploring guys, I dated myself.
I know it sounds weird, but it is the best decision that I have ever made. From there I was able to see that in order to be happy, you have to love yourself first. I encourage you, my sisters, to do the same thing, even if you are very, very happy with your HIM. The key to being happy is the love of self.
So, here are a “dates” to consider for yourself:
12. Take yourself out to eat at that new sushi place that you’ve been dying to try.
11. Go see the latest Nicholas Sparks movie with your girls and don’t you dare even think about share your popcorn with anyone.
10. Dress up… just because you want to.
Tess (Twitter: @tessiagroen) fancies herself to be the real-life, much shorter (but no less fabulous) version of Elle Woods, juggling Sorority Lyfe and a future law degree in one hand, and a Venti Vanilla Latte in the other. She actually enjoys school, is 99% sure she was a disney princess in a former life, and can usually be found somewhere with a lot of books.
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