How I found the perfect big
Transferring to a new and bigger school from a university in a small town. I knew that I wanted to go through rush as making friends was going to be difficult. Before the fall semester, I remember looking at the rush videos for the sororities that were at the university of Ottawa and had one in mind. However my family was not so thrilled about the idea. They had the stereotypical image of sorority girls stuck in their heads. But I knew it was something I wanted and I convinced them to let me try. I went to the recruitment events for multiple organizations and had a complete open mind. We need to find the perfect big!
First semester I went to the information session for my sorority and fell in love with the girls. They were everyday girls that didn’t care about looks or having a loud personality. That same night I went to my first rush event and met another PNM that turned out to be in the same program and in the same history class as me which is something that is continuously brought up by both of us with other sisters and other friends.
Later that semester she and I both got into different sororities, I went with my other first choice. I was really happy that we were both pledges but my experience was very different to hers. I ended up being de- pledged from that sorority for a reason that I didn’t agree with and was devastated. I remember that she was one of the first people that I told. She told me that I shouldn’t let it bring me down and that I was better than that.
Second semester I remember seeing her in the hallways and mentioning to her that I was going through rush again and that it was for an international sorority this time. She was surprised but understanding. When it came to finding out if I got a bid or not, I sadly didn’t not get one. But the feeling of sadness didn’t last long as I got invited to the preference round for the one that my big was in. I was super happy and thrilled about it. I became a pledge and when it came to big little reveal week, I knew that I wanted her to be my big. We had the same interests, dislikes, professors that we liked and didn’t and even were in the same program. When it came to reveal, I remember thinking that it was definitely her but didn’t want to be disappointed if it wasn’t. So I decided to again have an open mind. I walked around the room and eventually walked over to her and she was holding a balloon that had my name on it. I was really happy and we began talking as if we had known each other for years. From that moment on, we have been inseparable and know a lot more about each other than we did before I became a pledge.Throughout pledging, she was my go to person and gave me advice about everything from the pledge test, to what it was like being a sister. Finally getting initiated after a roller coaster of a ride was the best feeling in the world and being able to share it with my Big made it that much more special. I know that I can count on her for anything and first person that I tell about good or bad news. I don’t know how I would have gotten through second semester without her and all of my other sisters.