Real Talk: College Shootings from A Student Perspective

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So here’s the deal.

No matter what side you may fall on regarding the recent onslaught of debate on gun control, sparked on by multiple shootings on various college campuses, there is one thing we can all agree on: no matter what the reason is behind these tragic attacks, the damage needs to stop.

Since 2013, there have been 150 school shootings in the U.S. That’s an average of about one a week[i]. These are not mass shootings (events claiming the lives of 4 or more victims). Rather, the definition used for a school shooting by Every Town Research, and for the sake of this article, is anytime a firearm is discharged inside a school building or on a school campus or grounds, as documented by the press and confirmed through further inquiries with law enforcement.

We, as TV watchers and internet browser, usually only hear about the worst of these events, and can only truly understand the experience if we have been personally effected by something similar. If this is you, know that my thoughts and prayers are with not just you, but with all of America.

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Everybody Meet Puppy Pledge: The Cutest And Most Necessary Pledge Anyone Ever Needs Is The Premier Channel For All Sorority News Around The Globe.

Sorority girls around the country are thankful for fraternity pledges. It is pledges that can be our safe ride to and from social events (read: drink, dranky drunk parties) and they are always assuming the role of bartender, also known as the best person at the party. Well, there is one pledge that is making his mark on people throughout the nation: everybody, meet Puppy Pledge, the dude who is voluntarily sending people pictures of all kinds of adorable fluffy puppies. He is taking over social media more than Psy was in 2012 with Gangnam style.

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The pledge is allegedly studying in Nebraska. To stress, #PuppyPledge is not being forced to do this. According to TSM, the pledge said, “a group of guys just got together and thought it’d be funny and it went viral… I honestly like to think I’m making light of a tough situation Greek life is going through with a harmless act that embodies everything it means to be frat.”

The kid has a point: being frat is not about being a douchebag with a popped collar and an affinity for banging chicks and drinking beer. Being frat means being a part of a community of fun-loving and motivational individuals. If that motivation needs to come in the form of a text of a puppy, then so be it. Greek life is constantly getting sh** on. We all know it and we all know that there are members of the community whose actions will inevitably lead us to get sh** on even more. This is a nice reminder that we have genuinely good people in our community, people who deserve to be recognized and appreciated.

I seriously wish #PuppyPledge would reveal himself so that I could personally find him, hug him and thank him for this awesome idea. I am sure  I am not the only one that wants to meet this sweet and funny frat boy. If he is ever identified I guarantee he will be swimming in girls, proving that some good deeds do go unpunished.

Keep on keeping on, Puppy Pledge.

Ps- I know you’re busy but I’m still waiting for my puppy picture.

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What Being In A Sorority Really Means

Sorority women are always being pegged as party-goers that do not care about anything but fraternity guys and alcohol, but that is so far from the truth. Our sisterhoods mean so much more than socials and nights we do not remember. Greek life is often seen as a group of beautiful people all partying together, but once you have been absorbed into it, we all see that what we do is so much more.

Sororities focus on connecting with different houses on campus and to fight for their own houses philanthropy and contribute to others in the process. We do all party together because PanHellenic council brings our houses together to form a family that we would not have otherwise. Each social event brings us a little closer to people we share something in common with and to make connections that will help in our personal and professional futures.

While socializing, we also have to focus on what we came to school to do. Study and get degrees. Each house has a different GPA its women must maintain in order to be active and go to events throughout the year. More often than not, Greek life’s cumulative GPA is also higher than the Universities too. We might all go to the library and talk a lot more than we study, but by the time finals roll around we know what we are doing and pass with flying colors. C’s might get degrees, but A’s get baes ladies!

Last but not least, we are in this for the Sisterhood. For the friends we have made that will last a lifetime no matter where we all end up after college. These girls that we have connected with, cried with and laughed with hold a bond that no one can break. Even sisters that we have not met yet are there for us. Sororities bring together women from all over the globe to be bound by letters. No one will ever understand why we do what we do either. They won’t understand why it is no big deal to walk across campus at 3 am when our sister has been broken up with or to travel across the country just because we miss them.

To the outside world they’re just letters, but to us they’re our life.

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Bringing it Back to Campus

Being home for the holidays is great…for the first week. Then all of us are dying to get back to school where our sisters, and boy-toys can all hangout until the wee hours of the morning without worrying about waking our parents as we come stumbling in. Getting back into the swing of socializing isn’t hard but getting back into that school grind is nearly impossible. So how do we manage to get back into school-mode so we can stay in school?

First, get your schedule organized. Make sure your enrolled in your right classes, check rate your professor for that stats class your dreading, and see what books you need to buy, all the week before classes start. It is so much easier to get organized when you’re not rushed into it.

Buy cute notebooks or binders. If your old-school like me and take your notes by hand, this is always so fun. I love having cute notebooks to crack open on the first day of lecture. If you’re an actual person and use technology to take notes, clean out your old ones and make new folders for each class so they’re easy to save and then dash out the door and back to bed.

If your house has a Facebook group like mine, have everyone post their schedules and see what sisters you have in each class. You can avoid sitting alone and you have sisters that will be stuck going to study tables too.

Make a to-do list. I am the queen of to-do lists. Some girls think they are but they cannot compare to the psycho lister I become when the school stress starts to set in. Get cute sticky notes, color code them, write down EVERYTHING! It helps, once you see what you have to do and start crossing things off it takes the world off your shoulders.

Set goals. When you have certain things you want to achieve you’re more likely to get them done. Bring your sisters along for the ride too. If you all shoot for a 3.5 in your biology class, you’ll push each other to study and get the grade and a few mimosas after finals too.

Once you have school straightened out, it makes socials and late nights out that much more enjoyable. Good luck this semester ladies and may you get the grades to keep you out of study tables.

 

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Reasons Not to Go Alpha Xi Delta Is The Premier Channel For All Sorority News Around The Globe.

Spring recruitment is upon us and proof of why we love our sorority smother our Facebook walls. Pictures of #WhyAXiD and comments of why Alpha Xi Delta is such an amaXing sorority cover my sisters’ Facebook and Twitter. I was going through my list of why I love Alpha Xi Delta, and it reminded me of something when I was a child. When my mother and I would go shopping, I would point out everything I wanted. I would point out over half the store and my mother would just shake her head and tell me “the list would be shorter if you pointed things you didn’t like.” Of course I thought that was just silly as a kid. Why would I point out things I don’t like? That would be such a waste of time. Nostalgic as I am about the 90’s, little me did not understand anything about how amazing the Backstreet Boys truly are or that I truly do love too many things… my empty bank account is proof. But my mother did have a point (don’t enjoy that comment too much mom), there are too many reasons that I love AXiD, so I made my shorter list of reasons not to go Alpha Xi Delta:

1. Do not go Alpha Xi Delta if you do not have school spirit and cannot support your sisters. Having school spirit does not mean wearing your school colors every day or painting your nails obnoxious colors, it means getting involved and helping better the school. It also means supporting your sporty sisters, your theater sisters, and your nerdy sisters. Chemistry club having a movie in the planetarium can be fun with a bunch of your best friends with you.

2. Do not go Alpha Xi Delta if you do not like building a sisterhood or a friendship that will last a lifetime. Each of my sisters are truly amaXing in their own way and I would not trade a single one of them. They are all so talented and I admire and look up to each individual woman. How many organizations can you just walk into and say that you admire and look up to every single person? Well if you find one, call me up because I want to work for them. Pillow fights are the only fights I ever get in with my sisters. (Other than the time when I wanted to watch Lion King and I got outvoted for Frozen.)

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3. Do not go Alpha Xi Delta if you do not love giving back to the community. My sisters are some of the most caring people I have ever met and Autism Speaks is proof of this love. Light It Up Blue has not only struck the nation, but the world. You’ve heard of the Eiffel Tower, right? Well, once a year they “light it up blue” to bring awareness to Autism Speaks. The Leaning Tower of Pisa? Well, I hear it is a pretty cool place to visit you should check it out (especially when it is lit up blue).

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4. Do not go Alpha Xi Delta if you do not care about education. If late sleepovers, laughing for too many hours, and running frantically getting ready for formal is not exciting, then you haven’t done it enough. If you came to school just to be social and not focus on academics, then AXiD is not for you.

5. Do not go Alpha Xi Delta if you do not want to find your potential and grow into a well-rounded woman. Success is not measured by money, or popularity; success is measured by how many hearts you touch, the laughter, the joys, and knowing that you did something to make the world a little bit better. Success is waking up in the morning and knowing that you helped someone and you have touched someone’s heart. To leave your footprint in the sand and leave no regrets that you have done something great. I have witnessed it time and time again an outstanding Alpha Xi Delta woman doing something to reach a greater goal. What is that goal? To make this world a little better, one day at a time and to have every woman see her potential.

So just like my mother said, the list is shorter to point out everything I don’t like about Alpha Xi Delta because that list would be zip. This is Why I went AXiD.

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Life in a Sorority House

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I moved into my sorority house my Sophomore year. As a younger sister moving into the chapter house I was assigned to the “Six man.” Yes, six hormonal, college girls crammed into one room! It was the biggest room of the house containing three bunk-beds, six dressers and six closets. I learned very quickly that getting along with your roommates is essential. In most cases, one doesn’t have five roommates, but even with just one you will find it quite beneficial to become friends. Living in the chapter house is not like living in a dorm. In a dorm you can hate your roommate, and just avoid them for the year. Living with a sister means you are together during multiple events, such as meals and recruitment. Like I said, becoming friends is definitely a good idea. As quickly as I learned this, I formed bonds with my sisters that I thought were impossible. One of my roommates became my best friend, and the person I am planning on living with for my junior year as well.

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Personal space. What is that? This magical thing does not exist, however you soon find it does not matter. Having a friend and sister in every room of the house means they barge into your room unannounced at any time. Many nights you spend watching Netflix with sisters or studying until 3 am. They are always there, but I would not have it any other way. The best bonding times are not the big, mandatory events, but the times I will remember forever are the nights were you have to go on a Taco Bell run, and end up touring a neighboring college in the middle of the night. They are the nights when you are completely exhausted studying for midterms, and have a dance party in the middle of the formal room. It is these little things that I personally have loved the most, and I could not have experienced those without living in this nut house that we call home. You cannot get away from them ever, but I have no desire to do so.

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“Quiet hours.” Nope. Every sorority establishes them, and every sorority breaks them. As my sorority’s Property Advisor, I am the one has the responsibility to enforce them. But really, the house will never be completely quiet. There will always be someone who comes home at 2am, on a Thursday night, and wakes up the whole house. Or someone who is just really loud and needs to have conversations late at night and have the entire house’s input. Going to bed at an appropriate time is almost impossible. But it also means that someone is awake to hang out with you when you can’t sleep and someone is always there to celebrate or cry with you.

Living in the house is an experience you will never get again. Never again will all your best friends be ten steps away. So if you get the lucky opportunity to live in your sorority house, do it. And enjoy every single moment because once its gone, you will not be able to get it back. It is nothing like I imagined, but it’s been even better.

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The Real Reasoning Behind The “Sorority Squat”

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The Sorority Squat— the basic ‘Insta ready’ sorority pose.

But, what does it really mean? What does the sorority squat actually mean besides a great picture?

A sorority is much more than the social media ‘likes’. Joining a sorority takes a certain type of woman. A woman who displays commitment. For those of you who are reading this who are not in greek life, yes, joining a sorority does take up a lot of your time. Every week there are meetings, planning, events, and sisterhoods. Certain days can be long with so many different things going on, but we do it because we are committed. Women of greek life are driven to work their hardest and do absolutely nothing less than their best. Sure, there can be nights where you don’t get home earlier than 10:30. Yes, there are mornings that you wake up at the crack of dawn to fulfill a community service. That’s part of the commitment. Thats who we are and what we stand for— a group of committed, dedicated women.

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Don’t Judge a Book By Its Cover (or a Guy by His Letters) Is The Premier Channel For All Sorority News Around The Globe.

Everyone has that favorite fraternity. It’s the one you inevitably end up at every weekend. Whether you start there or not, you’ll always end up on their back porch at one in the morning singing some loud patriotic, country song. Maybe your boyfriend or crush is a brother, or the guys are ridiculously hot. Maybe it’s where all your friends are or where you’re the most comfortable. For me, I spend A LOT OF TIME (as in every weekend) at one house. The guys are genuine, easy to talk to, and my boyfriend is rushing there next Fall.

Now, it’s story time. Once upon a time, naive first semester me went out every weekend to New Row. This grand stretch of glorious houses, filled with more than enough new boys could entertain my friends and I for hours. In a big university like mine, there are thirty fraternities. A few are well known, either as being great or completely underrated. Everyone else kind of falls in the middle. Every now and then, we would venture to Old Row – which we viewed as the slightly forgotten area. The houses may be smaller and the amount of members typically matched it. After going to more than a few bigger fraternity parties, my also naive friends and I ended up in a quiet Old Row house (which I will continue to leave unnamed). This place was different – the bathrooms were always clean and well decorated, there were enough people to have fun without it being cramped, and you could talk without yelling to the person next to you. After going to the house once and coming back a few weekends later, I discovered the best part of the fraternity. The brothers cared to know my name.

Okay, about now you’re probably reading this thinking, so what? Maybe I’m just too quiet to approach people or no one wants to remember my name at the other houses. But that wasn’t it. It’s not for lacking of trying by the brothers in other houses – it’s just these guys were able to be friends with literally everyone who walked through the door. There were no closed parties and they could care less if you’re Greek or not. They just want to have fun, which is why I like them.

If you mentioned this fraternity to me in the beginning of the year, I doubt I would have known anything about them outside of their placement on Old Row. There are nice guys and terrible guys in every house and neither should be judged by their letters. So, my lesson to all of you lovely women (and men, if you’re reading this) is to not judge a house by its reputation or a guy by the letters he wears. Every brother earned his right to wear them and if he was chosen by an organization, there’s a reason why. Venture out from the fraternities you always hear about and meet some new people. You never know where you’ll meet the brothers who you’ll personally decide make up the best house on campus.

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Fraternity and sorority social calendars have been put on a massive hold at Rutgers University. The administration declared that social events held in the Greek community are banned for the remainder of the semester.

Rutgers, which has 86 fraternity and sorority chapters, will be prohibiting all parties that take place within fraternity houses and on campus grounds, which was decided in a grueling meeting that began on March 31st and carried over into the early hours of April 1st.

The decision, made by The Rutgers Office of Fraternity and Sorority Affairs (OFSA,) is to ensure the safety of students during this time of heavy investigation on the campus itself.

PanHellenic President, Erin Kearns, explained that the choice was made not to serve as a punishment, but to give the University time to reevaluate their Greek organization as a whole. Kearns said, “It’s a yellow light to allow us to reflect on how and what we can do to be a better Greek community.”

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I Didn’t Like Sorority Girls, Yet I Became One Anyway. You’ll Never Guess Why. Is The Premier Channel For All Sorority News Around The Globe.

During my first week of college, my school hosted an activities fair. Baking in the Virginia sun, I wandered through the booths with my roommate, overwhelmed by the crowd and hoping to snag a few free cups and T-shirts. I wasn’t sure if I should cling to activities I knew (newspaper, student government) or step out of my comfort zone, but I did know one thing for sure: I would never be a sorority girl.

As my first semester went by, I found my niche in exciting classes like Tibetan Buddhism and joined a literary and debating society. If I was aware of sorority women, it was only that they wore oversized T-shirts covered in unidentifiable Greek letters. Like most people, I had seen movies about college and was well-versed in the sorority stereotypes: Exclusive clubs of girly-girls who chased fraternity boys, gossiped about one another, awkwardly squatted in photos, and were comfortably mired in group identity. They were the woo girls I avoided, attendees of the sticky, noisy fraternity parties I loathed, and I had only the vaguest awareness that they hosted philanthropic events.

One night, walking to a corner store after a party with my new debate society friends, we passed a white house. “That’s where Marie lives!” one of them remarked.

Marie was my hero: a driven, accomplished third year with passions ranging from Japanese politics to pastry. Curious about my role model, I snuck a glance at the house. With shock, I noticed a brightly illuminated sign next to the front door, painted with letters that were unmistakably Greek. Marie was confident, humble, and down to earth—the opposite of the stereotype I imagined—yet she was in a sorority.

In December, my roommate signed up for rush, and as we tried to talk about the process, I realized that neither of us had any idea what we were talking about. Speed dating-style conversations, skits, house tours—it all seemed over-the-top and contrived. But as I clicked through pictures on the Intersorority Council’s webpage, it occurred to me that I actually knew nothing about the sorority chapters at my school. Rush would be my only opportunity to step inside a members-only world and actually learn about what I said I was rejecting. So, 15 minutes before the deadline, I typed up an application, paid the fee, and sent it off.

Rush started early on a cold, sunny January morning. I was scheduled to meet Marie’s sorority late the following evening, but our first house was right next door. Surrounded by nervous first-years, I suddenly heard screams and cheers from within Marie’s sorority house. As we were ushered into our first house, I saw women filing into Marie’s house amid clapping and cheering, and my uncertainty transformed into curiosity.

As the first weekend wore on, I was certain that I wouldn’t be able to distinguish one sorority from another. Each round was a blur of well-dressed women trying to ask about my winter break while awkwardly assuring me that they were all very good friends. My voice quit on me after the first few rounds and conversations became more and more difficult to carry. At first, the only way I could distinguish between my hazy memories of houses was by looking at the pitiful notes I managed to scribble between rounds.

But a few rounds later, I started picking up on each sorority’s personality. I felt eager to return to some houses and significantly less eager to return to others. One sorority in particular stood out to me; being there felt like taking a break from rush, somewhere I could relax and be myself. Whether I spoke with an engineering student or a cheerleader, we discovered that we had similarly sensible outlooks. To my surprise, most women there replied that they actually didn’t intend to pledge anywhere. But they were so glad they had.

Even though I had fully planned to drop out of rush after the first few rounds, I stayed on. Finally, it was bid day, and I stared at my envelope for a long moment before nervously sliding one finger under the flap. I now understood my options and although I felt that I could probably find friends in each of them, there was some intangibly comforting quality about that one house that made me hope that it could become a home. I held my breath and pulled my bid card out of the envelope.

Seconds later I called to accept my bid. I could hear cheers in the background and as I walked to class, my phone blazed with Facebook notifications: over one hundred somewhat creepy friend requests and congratulatory wall posts from the women who would supposedly become my sisters, my best friends, and one day my bridesmaids.

I remained skeptical and removed for the remainder of my first year. As I watched my parents, family members, friends, and boyfriend look at me with questioning eyes, I felt my identity slipping out of my control. I felt embarrassed to admit that I had been swept up in the excitement of rush, and frustrated that a significant portion of my summer paycheck would be handed over to our treasurer at the beginning of the semester. Often, I didn’t even mention that I had pledged. Whenever it came up, I immediately defended or downplayed my decision.

But by the end of the summer, as I packed up my car to drive back to school, I felt a buzz of excitement at the thought of reuniting with my pledge class. I realized that I had a choice to make: quit or stay. I’m no quitter, and I knew that if I was going to stay, I needed to dive into the date functions, the weekly dinners at the sorority house, the apple-picking, the concert-going. I may have paid my dues, but just like in any other organization, I was the only one who could make my friendships real. I had taken the first step toward open-mindedness during rush, but now it was up to me to see the process through.

All year, I wondered what I would tell the new batch of first years about sorority life. By the time rush rolled around, I knew exactly what I would say. Even though I had initially been embarrassed to use the sorority-specific terminology “bigs” and “littles,” I would tell them about my grandbig Rana, a biomedical engineering student whose unshakable determination to become a doctor inspires me daily. I would tell them about Nessa, my big, who is fluent in French and once sewed a quilt featuring scenes of Vito Acconci’s edgy performance art. This year, I’ll be able to talk about my little, Alex, and how we once ate the majority of a Ben and Jerry’s Vermonster together. These women have become like family to me; together, we celebrate our successes and talk through our sorrows.

I’ll tell the rushees about the emails that come through our listserv, like the one last May about a sister’s upcoming art exhibition, sent out not by the artist but by her roommate. I’ll remember the way my sisters reached out to me when my boyfriend and I broke up while I was studying abroad 3,500 miles from home; I didn’t just hear from them the day it happened, but in the weeks that followed. “I experienced something similar last year,” Elly wrote to me. “I’m here if you want to talk.” And as random worries popped into my mind in the weeks that followed, she patiently answered my Facebook messages no matter what time of day or night. I’ll tell them about Marie, who followed her dream to New York to work as a pastry chef in a top restaurant.

I’ll recount the way our common room becomes a classroom as aspiring teachers test out lesson plans. Sisters listen to each other practice speeches, like the one sister got to introduce Stephen Colbert at last year’s valediction. The same photographer who snapped photos of newly inducted sisters now runs her own wedding photography business on the west coast.

I’ll talk about how surprising it is that somehow, these inspiring, funny, creative women who I look up to so much are my biggest fans. Whether we were sorority sisters or not, I would want to be friends with them, but the truth is that at our large school, I probably wouldn’t have met most of them at all. My sorority is a microcosm of my school. We are engineers, poets, painters, nurses, teachers, anthropologists, and scientists. In our extracurricular lives, we are dancers, political activists both red and blue, actresses, singers, writers, interns, and athletes. Some of us are religious; some of us aren’t. We hail from Singapore, London, Canada, Texas, Hawaii, Colorado, Virginia, South Carolina, and more, meaning that we have friends to visit all over the map. We might love shopping and makeup, but we might not, and if we do, that doesn’t mean that we can’t also love watching hockey, going to music festivals, volunteering, and making homemade ice cream. Instead of closing myself off by becoming cloistered in a sorority, my world has been flung wide open by my sisters’ diverse interests and experiences.

Now that I know and appreciate the individuals in my own sorority (and many others), it’s hard to remember what it was like to view sororities as bland, exchangeable groups of women. Rush can be a difficult, intimidating process. Not everyone will find a home within the Greek system, just like everyone won’t find a home in debating societies or sports teams or community service organizations. But buried within rounds of rapid conversations, sparkling jewelry, and swirling hems is a dynamic community of valuable individuals. It’s easy to view sororities as monoliths that have booze, boys, and blondes at the core, but stereotyping is always easier than discovering the truth. Within and without the Greek world, I’ve learned that there’s more to every group than meets the eye. I’m no longer embarrassed to tell people that I’m in a sorority because I know that any judgment I receive will just be ill-informed. If anyone got to know the supportive, goofy, intelligent group of women in our house, I think they’d like us too.

It seems like every week, the police chief in our city delivers another email about sexual assault to our inboxes, or another enraged Jezebel article makes the rounds on Facebook, or I hear a girl call another girl a bitch—jokingly? In a world that constantly tells women that we’re too fat, too skinny, too bitchy, too meek, and every other type of judgment, it feels good knowing that there’s a group of women in my corner who think I’m fine just the way I am.

And maybe the woman I talk to during rush won’t want to be in a sorority; that’s fine. Maybe she’ll want to be a sorority that’s not mine; also fine. But maybe she’ll be like me: unsure but curious, open-minded and down-to-earth, and just maybe she’ll find a home in my sorority, too.

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It’s a new New Year’s

Oh hello 2015! Or at least that’s what I should say. Every year we get so excited about the next year to come. And we look back on the past year by making a flipgram of pictures that everyone has already seen.

Instead of trying to have the cutest pictures of your New Year’s eve outfit, stay at home. Sit and watch tv in your sweats and just relax for the night. Hey that’s what I’m doing.

The New Years is a great way for people to start over. For some reason people seem to think that the last year of our lives is just going to disappear.

Hate to break it to ya but its not

We all make the same goals every year that this year we are going to go to the gym and eat healthier. And then that lasts for about a month.

Let’s make some new goals.

Think about making goals for the new year as a chapter. Most of you all just transitioned to new officers. This is a great way to start new resolutions. Maybe have each officer make resolutions for their position.

Make chapter resolutions.

And don’t just decide these at your executive council meeting, decide these as a chapter. Find out what the members want to do more of in the next year. This will allow your chapter to be closer than every in the next year and your sisterhood will grow even more.

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Sorority Recruitment Workshop Expierence!!

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I am always looking for a way to spice up what could be a very boring meeting. Whether it’s with my charming personality or incorporating some fun little activities or including pressing issues that create dialogue I think there is a way to make a meeting a little more lively than just perusing through the agenda like Charlie Brown’s teacher. The same can absolutely be said about recruitment workshops. I have sat through and led some doozies in my day. Did I learn from those experiences? Absolutely! I learned that never again did I want to lead a workshop that people dreaded coming to and wanted to leave after the first 10 minutes.

I think it also goes to show that you care about what you’re trying to teach if you put a fun spin on it. Obviously you think it’s important for your members to learn how to have meaningful conversations with PNMs, to bump, about your voting procedures, and your overall vision for recruitment. But you have to make your members believe it is important too. And sitting through six hours of non-stop ranting or monotony is not going to get them there. Here are some ideas to make your workshop more fun and interactive:

1. Play pump-up music when everyone is arriving. Who isn’t inspired by Beyonce? Turn on Beyonce or Spice Girls (a personal favorite) Pandora and let everyone know that they are in for some fun before they even find their seats.

2. Begin with an overview for the day. Nothing is worse than not knowing what to expect and feeling like the day is never-ending. Not to mention, are we getting bathroom breaks or a lunch break? Review your expectations for the day and let your members know your plans unless you want a bunch of hangry sorority girls stewing in their seats.

3. Start with an icebreaker. Yep. I just went there. Get people out of their seats and talking. Chances are your chapter hasn’t really spent time together since school got out so get them talking to each other and excited about your sisterhood.

My personal favorite is Bear/Man/Gun. It’s like rock, paper, scissors but everyone is up and moving around! The symbol for Bear is your hands up, man is waving, and gun is like you’re pointing a gun. The players stand back-to-back and yell “bear, man, gun” then turn around to reveal their pose. If they tie, do it again. Whoever, wins moves on to another team and the loser travels around with the winner cheering them on as loud as they can. When another wins, their little posse follows cheering on the winner until there are two winners left. They come together for the final battle and the ultimate winner can win a prize or the love and adoration of all your sisters.

4. Your first session should be whatever topic is most pressing for your chapter. If your chapter really needs to work on their conversations start with that. They will be most focused at this point during the day and may check out later on. Like I suggested in the Recruitment Questions post (linked above) play a game like Jenga with the questions written on the blocks. Put your sisters in groups and let them answer the questions. Be intentional about how you would like people paired up so that strong conversationalists are working with weak conversationalists.

5. Let your members share their worries. Whether this is their first year recruiting or their senior year, it is likely all of your members have questions on how to handle different recruitment scenarios. Let them voice these concerns publicly and address them individually. You can do this by members calling out their concerns one at a time or collect their concerns in a hat and discuss them all. It helps everyone realize that you’re all in this together (HSM, anyone?) and no one is really an expert when it comes to recruitment.

6. Bring snacks. This goes back to #2. Unless you want a bunch of hangry sorority girls, you better have snacks there!

7. Know that you have a plan of action, but hear others out. Just because you have done something a certain way for years does not mean you have to continue. A new member to your chapter may have a better idea for bump groups than what you’ve done in the past. Even if it is different that what other chapters are doing, if it follows the recruitment rules, try it out and see how it works for your chapter. Your chapter gets new members every year and loses members every year. You are constantly changing and the way that you do things can change too.

8. Work smarter, not harder. Being Recruitment Chair or in a leadership position doesn’t mean you have to be the end all, be all of knowledge on the topic. Bring in people outside of your chapter to help educate your members. Whether that person is your campus advisor, a representative from inter/national, or an alumna member bringing someone else in will help break up who is talking and help you understand their expectations.

9. Review your recruitment rules. It has probably been a few months since you’ve gone over them with your Panhellenic Association. This will serve as a fun reminder of what you can and cannot do before the semester and recruitment starts.

10. Plan a photo shoot for afterwards. Tell your members to bring cute colorful outfits and have someone take pictures of all of you around campus. Bring props and get creative! These pictures can be used as decorations in your room or for slideshows. It is such a fun way to end the day before you part ways.

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